u/Excellent-Day-2509

My husband and I (both 38) have been trying to have a baby for just over a year. We’ve been pregnant three times and had three miscarriages (blighted ovum-untested, trisomy 14 & triploidy). We have no living children. We’ve done all the testing available to us so far (blood panels, karyotyping, semen analysis) and all seem to be ‘normal’. So our miscarriages have been deemed bad luck.

After the last miscarriage, we decided to take a few months off. I’d put on a lot of weight in the last year so went on Mounjaro to help lose and had started getting back into the gym. I’ve had one period since my last miscarriage and wasn’t anything like my usual periods so wasn’t even sure it was a true period but then chalked that change up to being on new medication - Mounjaro.

Weight had started to come off, I had so much more energy and was really starting to feel good about myself after a very tough year on my body. Then I find out I’m pregnant again (4weeks 2 days as of today), I know this is what I so want but I can’t help but feel like it’ll end in miscarriage again so now I’ve got to feel bad/unwell/tired for 4-6 weeks until I find out if this pregnancy is going to be viable and if not then I’ll have to start my self care all over again. I’m determined not to let this pregnancy affect me going to the gym, eating healthily in so far as I can. But with every time I’ve gotten pregnant, my symptoms seems to start earlier and have been worse than the time before.

Obviously I know there is a chance that this will work out, but with my history my brain is leaning towards it ending in another miscarriage so I’m annoyed that I’m going to have to have these symptoms again and feel unwell for potentially no reason.

I know we chose this, we had unprotected sex. Only once mind you!! What are the chances we’d get the exact timing right just once to make this happen?! And every other time we’ve gotten pregnant we have tried several times and even done at home inseminations to improve our chances. I’ve heard the term hyper fertility, where your uterus is too welcoming and doesn’t weed out the bad embryos before implantation. I think this might be my situation.

I’m so sorry to complain. I know being pregnant is the biggest wish some people have and I want it too, I want a healthy pregnancy, I’m just scared of the toll it’s going to take on my body to get there.

Has anyone been in the same situation/felt the same?

My first miscarriage was a blighted ovum (untested but most likely chromosomal), second was tested and came back as Trisomy 14 and today I received the results of my third miscarriage and it was Triploidy.

I’ve been pregnant three times, all losses, no living children. I am 38 and my partner is 37. Due to a recent job loss we only have one income. Have no savings so IVF with PGT-A testing is not an option right now. We have done karyotype testing, mine came back normal but my husband’s sample was rejected so we need to get this redone. We have not done sperm analysis or DNA fragmentation testing yet.

We are getting more testing done through the public system but this takes a long time. We will do all the tests we can that are not cost prohibitive and make even more lifestyle changes to hopefully improve our egg and sperm quality.

But just looking for some positive stories of anyone who was able to conceive naturally after several chromosomal losses?