u/Exciting-Anteater-91

I use she/her and identity with being a female (AFAB). But I’ve struggled with my gender identity for as long as I can remember. For a while I used they/them pronouns with close friends, but never publicly. I retracted it because I was being made fun of and felt like it was too much of a hassle to explain to people some times. I still felt a weird feeling when it came to identifying with she/her pronouns. Like, it just feels like when someone refers to me with she/her pronouns, they’re talking about someone else. There was a blip where I thought I was trans and experimented with using he/him pronouns, but it didn’t work out. That was years ago, and I’ve pushed down my feelings about gender and my pronouns since then. I’ve never felt right about using she/her pronouns, and I never truly identified with it. As I grew into a “womanly” figure, I felt uncomfortable and felt like it just wasn’t me that I was looking at. I’ve always felt like my chest and my bikini area was never apart of me, just something I always had to deal with and look at. It never really feels like it’s a part of my body, though. I don’t really know how else to explain it. Last year I told my ex-boyfriend (while I was extremely drunk) that I feel like I’m nonbinary and he completely shut it down…. He’s my ex boyfriend for a reason lol. I just don’t know what to think of it. I’ve always felt like I was nonbinary. The problem is that I like dressing feminine. I really love it. But there’s something about the fundamental nature of being a woman that makes me extremely uncomfortable. Being perceived as a woman makes me want to crawl out of my skin and crawl into a pit. People referring to me as a woman makes me feel horrible. I get this weird pit in my stomach when I think about being a woman and it feels like a guilty sadness. It’s never ending. Am I just not used to being a woman or am I just nonbinary? Is it societal pressures and misogyny making me feel uncomfortable with it? I’ve had those questions bounce around in my head for years and it’s becoming an increasingly difficult thing to deal with as of late. Some times I just wish there was a definitive answer or an illuminated sign that just told me what I am, and I wish I agreed with it. I just don’t know how people would react if I told them I’m nonbinary or that I want to use they/them or she/they pronouns. I feel confused and dumb. I feel LOST. This is my first time actually voicing how I truly feel and it feels like an elephant being lifted off of my chest. I’m just scared about how my friends, family, and partner will think of it if I ever say it out loud.

Hi! I’ve been diagnosed with hip dysplasia for a few years now and am finally getting surgery after failed PT and years and years of debilitating pain. I have bilateral labral tears, and am getting surgery only on my right hip in hopes that the pain on my left side will subside (if not, another surgery is in question). Does anyone have any advice for post-op?

I am in the process of getting diagnosed with adeno as I recently got an ultrasound that showed I have an enlarged uterus, heterogeneous myometrium, and a cyst on my left ovary. Adeno completely explains my debilitating pain, bloating, and weird periods. But, I did learn the only way to deal with it is a hysterectomy, hormonal therapy (IUDs, etc), and NSAIDs. But I’ve had a Liletta IUD for a year now and my pain has only gotten worse and more frequent. Also, all NSAIDs do not work at all! Midol, ibuprofen, aleve… nada. Nothing makes the pain go away and it feels like every month the pain is worse and any movement makes me feel like I’m going to die. The pain is constant and the bloating and pressure and constant spotting is so difficult to deal with. I’m in the middle of trying to find a new OB because my last one refused to let me get an MRI after it was suggested I get one after an ultrasound to confirm adeno. Has anyone had these problems with an IUD? I love the IUD and I haven’t had any complications at all, but the pain I’m getting is unbearaaaable. Also, are there other ways to treat it? I’m young and a hysterectomy is the last thing I want. I’m just terrified because I want to have kids in the future. I am also feeling discouraged about getting a diagnosis anytime soon because of how young I am.

I’ve been having really insane pelvic pain for the past year and was finally referred for an ultrasound and a transvaginal ultrasound by my OB. Ultrasound found that I have a cyst (which I already knew from prior imaging) and that my uterus is enlarged and I have a heterogenous myometrium, and it was suggested I get a follow up ultrasound + MRI. But, when I asked my OB about this she refused to give me an MRI script because I’m “too young” and that the only way adenomyosis can be diagnosed is by removing the uterus and having a pathologist diagnose it. I’m furious and argued with her but she wouldn’t budge and refused to give me a real medical reason as to why I shouldn’t get an MRI. Has this happened to any one else? I’m also confused because I read multiple medical journals that said the complete opposite about the way it is diagnosed. I’m going to stop going to this OB and seek out care from someone else but I am just livid!!!

EDIT: She also refused an MRI because I’m having pain pretty much all of the time, but it gets debilitating on my period — and I barely bleed because I have the Liletta IUD. She said that adeno only causes pain during menstruation — is that true? I’m not seeing that as a trend when I ask other people about it.