Is it a mostly NT/allist thing that people often seem to be fine with hiding their interests and hobbies from friends and partners?
I mean I get hiding your like ao3 history from coworkers, because they're, like, strangers, or from family, because you didn't choose them
but I could never be comfortable with hiding an important part of my weird little brain from a person I consider a friend
i don't get the "keeping your X life and Y life separately" thing if X or Y is your closest people who's like supposed to accept and respect you anyway
I get uncomfortable even when I have to keep my horrible intrusive (and I mean intrusive) thoughts from them, because my love language is oversharing, and hiding something as important as interests and positions feels ten times worse