u/Existing-Seaweed-451

Hey guys!

So I've been carrying around 15 years of vocal training with nowhere to take it lately, and I want that to change.

A little about me: I'm 27f, based in South Bangalore (bannerghatta/ jp nagar/ jayanagar area) and i mostly vibe with indie pop, soft rock, blues-y stuff - think lana del ray, mazzy star, that kind of dreamy mellow aesthetic. And also really into post and prog rock, and a bit of electronic trip hop kinda music, so my taste is all over the place.

I'm honestly just looking for a couple of things and hoping someone here can help:

- Are there any casual jam circles or small music collectives around JP nagar, jayanagar, or HSR? I'd love to just show up, sing and meet some cool people!

- Any musicians in the area (guitarists/ keys, whoever!) who play in a similar space and are open to a low pressure session sometime?

- Also, are there any regular live gigs or small venue nights in south blr where this kind of music gets played? Even just as a listener, I'd love to be in the room for it.

Not looking to perform or anything serious rn I just wanna reconnect with music, explore some new genres, and find my people.

Thanks in advance, this community seems lovely!

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for two years. In a lot of ways, we work. He respects my space and boundaries, and I can tell that he values the relationship a lot. We're both very independent, and our core values align. But we are fundamentally different people. Our interests and personalities don't match up, and while that isn't necessarily a bad thing, it's led to a total lack of curiosity on his part about who I actually am.

​I've put real effort into his world. Hours gaming, building Lego sets together, things I genuinely came to love because I wanted to be part of what matters to him. But that's never been reciprocated. His life feels like the main event, and my thoughts, my interests and my inner world feel like background noise. Which feels unintentionally very egocentric.

​For some context, he's currently working two jobs and is clearly exhausted, and I've tried to be patient with that. But this has been the dynamic for nine months now. He can talk for hours about his own life, but he shows almost no interest in mine. I've gotten so resentful that I've started tuning him out, which isn't fair to either of us.

​What's eating at me isn't just the imbalance, it's the fear that this isn't a stress response. It's just who he is. I'm scared he's with me because he's afraid to be alone, and not because he actually wants to know me.

​How long can "work exhaustion" realistically justify a total lack of emotional curiosity before it's just a permanent personality trait?

​TL;DR: I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for two years. I show deep interest and involvement in things that he likes (gaming/lego), but he shows zero curiosity about my life or thoughts. He’s been working two jobs for 9 months and is exhausted, but I’m worried his lack of interest in me is a permanent personality trait rather than just stress.