u/Existing_Flower_8593

im F28 Canadian, hubby is Igbo is M32, we dont go on dates, for 2 years now.

his phone is his bff, always on the phone with his guys even in between his 15-30 mins breaks at work. he seems to think because bills are paid food is on the table hes done his part and washes his hands clean.

the beginning of our relationship was not perfect but very fun flirty and loving we got married, were both very happy and then its like we fell into these roles it seems. hes quiet chill loyal but his main focus is money money money.

we dont travel even one hour drive for ice cream date bc he is saving money to build a house in nigeria for us, we are not here forever is it that bad to have a bit of fun?? i am actually am making more money than him he says "as long as its your money we can go, as for me im saving mine into wealth-simple".

im tired of being married to a man that doesnt even see me. life is not all about your work sometimes i wish never met him since hes in love with money so much. i want to connect with him. what should i do? is this common?

My husband masturbates to FFM threesome porn. I feel sad :( Am i not enough? Stuff like this makes me wish i was single. 29F, 32M.
I feel like I was cheated on. We discussed threesomes and stuff like that before getting married and he said those didn't interest him but then THAT'S what's in his search history? Madonna - W complex is real :'( I have zero desire to be with him sexually now. Every time he tries I do it anyway but do not enjoy it anymore knowing what he does when i'm not around.

tldr; hubby's search history showed ffm threesome porn and i feel sick to my stomach.

mine is clients who look directly at the clock when i finish up. like is that what you were thinking about the whole time!? i gave you an extra few minutes damn!! relax😆😆

I owe money to CRA, credit cards, student loans, car loan and i'm not making any progress as interest keeps growing. my total debt is $96,000 majority student loans.

I was a single mom for 8 years before i met my now husband. I racked up my debt while being a single mom going to school to, no child support, nothing.

My husband is African (🇳🇬) and very adamant on me NOT filing for consumer proposal because he doesn't believe in not paying your full debt no matter what or how. as he was raised to just pay it all off and learn from it.

He laughed when I told him "i'm not asking you to pay my debt am i?" and told me "why should i pay your debt if it isn't mine" I have tried explaining in many ways how it is draining me and dragging me down I have little to no savings he just doesn't understand it. I'm at a point where i'm just going to up and go file consumer proposal and have it over with. Help?!!! ALL of my debt was before we married

Would it be bad to go behind his back and do it anyway?

Tldr; my husband doesn't understand consumer proposal but is refusing to assist me to pay it down and wants me to pay off $96,000 alone.