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I just finished 6 years of either being pregnant or breastfeeding our two daughters. To say my libido came back is an understatement. I can’t get enough and my husband can barely keep up. He seems to be almost insecure about how sexual I am. He’s expressed feeling pressure that he’s not enough to satisfy me. I adore him sexually and give him praise. He’s not used to this because the hormones were shut off for so long. I’m worried it’s a turn off. I want to hear from men if this is something they like or if too much desire makes us seem needy. I’ve always known that playing hard to get to a certain extent is hot. I don’t want to cover up my desire if it’s a turn on though.

EDIT: I think I need to clarify since the original post gives idea I am asking if men like sex with their wives. I know the answer is obviously yes. I am asking more about the dynamic of a husband feeling overly adored by his wife. I have always felt that men like to conquer and chase women. My husband has always felt that I was out of his league and was lucky to have me. With this new dynamic of me begging on my knees to have him as much as possible I am worried that he might feel turned off now that there is nothing to conquer. Sex used to be something he had to work for with foreplay and dates, etc.. any husbands out there feel more enticed by something they can’t have or have to work for? Or is this mostly just a pre marriage dynamic? For me personally when I was dating people before marriage. It was a huge turn off if a guy was obsessed with me. I’m not saying I’m obsessed with my husband in a creepy way but I’m worried that my new sex drive may give him that same feeling.

Hello,

I am in the process of reassignment due to my reasonable accommodation of not being able to work in office full time. I was pushed to reassignment because “I cannot perform my essential job functions remotely”. I found a job that is a fully remote job but due to RTO they want you to report to your closest VA to do the fully remote job in an office. Would this be something I could be reassigned to? Would the reasonable accommodation allow me to do the remote job from home since there are no essential job functions in person? I am a physician for context and my current job involves direct patient care but the job listing I am looking at looks more supervisory. It does not list direct patient care as a duty. Just wondering how reassignment could work at all under the RTO order if not through this remote job option. I feel it’s reasonable to allow me to do a fully remote job from home and not sit in an office when that exacerbates my symptoms of my disability. Would this be something you would take to EEO if they won’t allow the reassignment? Also, I did not ask for full time telework. I was only asking for part time. And the new job listing only says I need to report to closest VA. It doesn’t say I have to report DAILY

Hello,

Please help. I am a physician and my reasonable accommodation was escalated to reassignment as they are saying they cannot accommodate telework. I am not at FERS eligibility yet for disability but getting close. The want me to select what options I would be ok with for reassignment. Part time is an option, so is title 5 (I am title 38). Other options include lower pay grade. Obviously ideally I would be reassigned to a remote position but none are available right now that I’m seeing on USA jobs. Please help. I don’t want to screw myself over by selecting the wrong options.

Dday was three months ago. My husband has been clean since and truly transformed as a person. Therapy, podcasts, radical transparency, the whole nine yards. I’ve never felt more connected and loved by him. But me? I’m a wreck. I swing between being totally happy and proud to feeling worthless and self sabotaging. Immediately after I discovered I became extremely hypersexual. It’s a crazy coincidence but the discovery coincided exactly with me stopping breastfeeding. I chalked it up to the hormone changes but I knew something was different.

I am completely hypersexual porn star performer and want to have sex every single day and when we don’t I feel rejected. I don’t recognize myself anymore. I thought it was genuine desire but I’m sitting here crying reading another post explaining hysterical bonding. I identify with it 100%. My libido is through the roof and I am obsessed with my husband. Everyone says it goes away. I fear if it does my husband will stop being the angel he is. He always tells me how lucky he feels to have me and how supportive I am. I wasn’t consciously doing this but I knew it was a performance. It’s just that I liked it?? I’m so confused now.

He wants to trial a period of celibacy. I don’t even think I would survive. I think I would crumble in insecurity. What should I do? I clearly need therapy and help but I literally have no time. I work full time and have two kids and little help because he works two jobs and one of them is out of state.