u/Exotic-Cockroach9745

I have pain during intercourse - with my last partner it was painful but usually bearable so we could have sex even though it hurt maybe a minute or so when putting in. With my currect partner eveb if we go slow and I am wet the pain is so bad that we mostly just stop. I feel like the pain is maybe a few like 1-3 cm or something in and after that is fine.. with fingers I kinda feel like there is a tighter ring around there and it hurts to kinda push through. One finger is fine, two of mine are fine too when I ease up to it a bit etc but penis hurts (and boyfriend’s two fingers take time too as they are bigger.)
I have gone to a 2 different gynecologists but they both think is psycholoical (since it is painful then next time I worry more about and that’s why it hurts.) One prescribed a lidocain gel to put inside I guess with a assumption that if it doesn’t hurt wity that then it was just fear and I am magically cured when I stop using it in a month. Well one time it mostly didn’t hurt, went really slow too but other times it still did and we stopped usually. The other one just told me to visit a sexual conselling/theraphy thing with my boyfriend.
Could it be vaginismus/ pelvic floor tightness? I just honesly feel like it is not psychological but it just seems like since everything looks normal, there is no inflammation etc then they just don’t know what to do so must be psychological. They said that everything looks normal, that my pelvis is elastic and if I had a tightness problem then I would have never let her insert a finger … and that I was calm/relaxed during it. There where some spots when she touched that felt painful kind of sharp or just like… pressure pain? But she concluded that there are no specific pain spots… even though some spots did hurt. I feel like the pain during intervourse is similar each time… not random pain wherever. Just feels stupid to pay a lot to go to a psychiatrist for it if I don’t believe in it or paying for the pelvic floor thing when she will just tell me in 10 minutes again that all seems fine.

Recommendations? :))

I broke the needle last night on my sewing machine, got a new one and I think I installed it correctly (right side, watched a video, only thing I am wondering is that it seems a bit to the side...I feel like it should sit in center). I also added a new thread up and down, which also should be correctly installed, double checked that I threaded it when the leg was up (supposedly this is a reason that can cause loose thread), and the lower one is also the right way installed. But still nothing has changed. Help? please.
I feel like it could be the upper thread as when I sew then it gets weirdly stretched out sometimes.

I am using Husqvarna Viking H Class sewing machine

Wanted to also include pictures and videos of it...but it doesn't let me for some reason "all media assets must be owned by the submitter of the post"

Edit: changed the upper thread for another one and now it works......Don't understand why the other one won't work..not moving around or anything😃