u/Expensive-Parsnip830

As is expected with autism, I never felt like I belonged in most communities. That's normal if we talk about dealing with neurotypical people I would say, but this isn't actually an autism-specific thing I'm experiencing, it seems.

I've been in various communities with a lot of autistic people present and despite that I was always the odd one out, as the rest would adopt (or already have) the same specific mannerisms, shared common interests or preferences. I could never really claim that. In no community I've ever been in has this been the case. It feels like I have almost nothing in common with everybody I've ever met.

For example, the trans-, music-, motorcycle-, travelling- or basketball-people I've met, we should theoratically have a lot in common. I can never find much common ground though, because everything I do and like is so incredibly specific. The only way I make friends is through similarities in perspective about the world, which is a good way to make friends to be fair.

I know this is in part due to my incredibly strong desire for autonomy/demand avoidance, but I don't know if that's something I want to (or can) change. Another part is likely caused by trauma?

I'm not too bothered by this, as I still socialize and get along with people, but it is strange that I always feel like the odd one out, even in niche spaces. Can anyone relate?

I've noticed that whenever I show people my songs they make comments about how "they are good, but", maybe just "get a better mic" or "mixing the vocals differently", "your INSTRUMENTALS are really good!" or "Not every song needs vocals, you know?" and to be honest it makes me really insecure about my voice just sounding bad? Because I've definitely tried fixing it, my microphone is of decent quality as well.

This is sung softly and with little effects/layers on purpose, maybe I will add more energy/confidence at some points but I always get this no matter what kind of vibe the song I make is.

I put out my first album last year and got barely any positive feedback on it, was kind of a hit to my confidence I had built up making that album x/

Is it common to never fall into ANY (even niche) social categories?

Everyone encourages me to stop making songs and just make instrumental music instead. I can't figure out why. Is it my natural timbre or just the people around me?