u/Expensive_Lock8213

Signed up for my first triathlon. I hate padded shorts to ride in. I cycle commando with leggings. The padding hurts the lady bits and buttocks, and my seat is great without the extra padding. So requirement #1: no padding (or extremely little padding if no padding trisuits don’t exist). Requirement #2: must be petite size. I’m only 4’11”. I don’t think a kids trisuit would fit because I have curves. I’m not a flat pole bean. Requirement #3: sleeveless. I’d rather eat nails than swim with sleeves on.

Any recommendations?

Besides being understanding of the rough work schedule, arriving at home with mashed potato brains after a shift, etc. what are some ways that you feel appreciated, cared for, fully accepted by your significant other? My guy loves to be helpful and insists on helping me with stuff on his days off (cooking and cleaning the kitchen, doing small home projects, taking care of my racing bikes, watching my animals, etc.). I do have a lot on my plate (work full time, full time doctoral student, compete with my dogs, single parent, volunteer at my kids schools, volunteer in my community). We don’t live together but he spends a lot of time at my place. He’s very low maintenance, and besides telling him all the time how I feel about him, what a sexy beast he is, and how much I appreciate his acts of service…what would you want your significant other to do or say to make you feel appreciated? I realize this is more of a relationship Reddit question, but I also believe Paramedics are their own type of people and may have specific needs tied to what they do for work. When I’ve asked him, he doesn’t really have an answer, and I want him to feel as pampered as he makes me feel.

Just met a woman after texting and talking to her for a little while. We even video called (FaceTime) because her profile on the HER app sounded too good to be true. Healed, gone to therapy, ready for her person, emotionally available, loves the outdoors, loves dogs, works out every day, healthy lifestyle, anti racist, social advocate….all the things I was looking for. And then we met in person. She spent a lot of time before we met telling me about how much she worked out daily, how important it was for her, and how clean she ate, so it was a shock to meet an obese woman. She brought her dog, who was overweight and had nails so long they almost curled under her pads. I felt so bad for the sweet dog, and for me, because I was totally catfished. 😞

Before anyone attacks me for fat shaming, that’s not it. I’m just really sad and disappointed about being lied to. I have no issues with looks, I have issues with people lying and setting up false expectations. And reality not matching words is a flaming red flag.

The next day I brought up how a lot of the things she had emphasized while we talked did not seem to match when we met in person. I realized then that her photos were super outdated on her profile and depicted an era gone by. Even her dog had teeth in her profile pictures (sweet doggie is toothless now and so precious). I’m not superficial, so at first I chose to see past the physical differences between her profile, what she said, and who I met. But then she pushed really hard for exclusivity, started future tripping about staying home (in my city, at my house) and taking care of my kids and animals while I pursued my career. I pumped the breaks, saying how we had just met and I’m not one to rush into things. I’m currently interviewing for a 50% travel position…we had shared some information leading up to us meeting.

What just happened?

Did I only get catfished? Was this person also looking for a sugar mama? I’m so confused and sad. It really threw me for a loop, because she talked a great game. She knew all the right things to say, and acted so kind and supportive. Does FaceTime have filters?? I made sure to videocall first…

Needless to say, I wished her well and blocked her number. I am just still processing what just happened…