Here’s the whole story and I (25f) know in hindsight I should’ve cut this off months ago.
Met this guy (23m) back in January of 2025, started dating him for a bit, then on the fourth date he ghosted me for months. Reached back out after and by that time I felt a lot better about things.
I gave him a chance but I always had this underlying fear to trust him again after what happened. What started going on was a pattern of: I’d express something vulnerable > he’d take days to respond > I would announce that I’m ending the conversation and that it’s best for us to part ways > he’d explain himself immediately afterwards.
Also to note, he would always dance around a relationship and never straight up say he doesn’t want a relationship with me.
So this toxic cycle went on for a few months. It ended up with me (I think) making a mistake. I expressed I loved him (which was true) and then he said it back. A couple of days later, I cut things off because the anxiety of him taking a very long time to respond back felt a lot bigger than our connection at this point. I didn’t want to get hurt again.
I do fully take accountability for my part in this on and off connection. Yes, when not wanting to continue things, I should’ve stuck to that boundary. I always tend to stay hopeful that things will change. But I’m working on sticking to my word and not letting potential take over.
We reconnected again recently because I wanted to fully apologize for the cut off after expressing my love for him as it never sat right with me. I was planning to only apologize but then he asked if I wanted to reconnect and I felt really good at the time so I said yes.
Unfortunately that was not the best choice. He said he was someone I could confide him to tell him anything that I’m going through. I told him some pretty depressing thoughts that was going through my mind (I recently moved and I was having a difficult time adjusting) that I haven’t shared with anybody.
I felt very open to express myself at this point. I then openly fully express how I’ve been feeling towards us and he was open to calling at first. I didn’t receive the notification to that text and 12 hours later he texted again saying to please respond.
I then apologize profusely and explain myself. I also sent a long voice message of what I wanted to talk about. 2 days pass and he doesn’t respond back (he didn’t need to respond to the voice message but I did want a heads up that he got the message and that he’ll respond at some point).
I then send a follow up text message saying:
“Good day! I hope all is well.
I hope I’ve been understanding of your schedule, as I’ve been doing my best to :)
I really would love to talk things out with us. Is it okie if we briefly call about this instead? Perhaps at 10:30PM (your time) tonight if you’re free?
If you changed your mind about this, just let me know 👌🏼”
It’s been days and he hasn’t even opened my message. Yet he posts stories on Instagram.
I will admit the voice message I sent is a lot to unpack emotionally. But wouldn’t a decent human being at least just give me an update of acknowledging the message and saying they’ll get back to me when they can? That’s all I was asking. I don’t want the person to sacrifice their time texting away at me.
At this point I just don’t feel good and I want to block him. AITAH for wanting to do that. Or is that very unwarranted?
TLDR: I have an on and off situation with this guy who has an incompatible communication style. He ghosted me over a year ago and just ghosted me again. Should I block him at this point?