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Hey all, listen this is going to be a little long but I really hope it gives clarity to my question I’ll be asking. I met this girl on Hinge about 5 months back. She’s 23 while I’m 21, and she’s probably the most amazing, intelligent and beautiful woman i have ever met. We had an amazing first month together speaking non stop however I made a crucial mistake during one of our dates that “I wanted to be friends for now” I said this in fear of her not feeling the same way I did for her, and becuase how she always said how men should be friends with women first before persuing a relationship. Anyways a couple of months go by of somewhat constant texting, we both began speaking more deeply about our past, and issues and problems that we face, however I started to notice how she had started to be more dry to say the least. She still had enthusiasm during our conversations but it wasn’t as consistent. Anyways a couple of days ago I mentioned how I’ll be going to her town, about an hour and a half away from me, And said that I’d love her to come and join me ro a cat cafe. She seemed pretty excited to say the least but then asked if she could pay. Obviously I said no because I’m taking her out.she then decided to not go and asked “are we friends” we had a conversation afterwards and she ended up saying how she thought that we were just friends because I was not perusing her in a romantic way, and that she felt that when I said that “I wanted to be friends for now” she took it as indefinitely. she feels like she would rather remain friends at this point in time. This honestly really hurt me because I messed up a couple of months back becuase I thought what I was doing was the right thing to do not realizing that she had been protecting her own peice and slowly distancing her self from me. I told her that I don’t know if that would be possible, because of the feelings I have for you, I need a couple of weeks for my self, not becuase I have any ill will for you but becuase honestly it does kinda hurt me to hear that. I said I’m sorry for “playing with her feelings, and she apologized for hurting mine.
Wellll, a couple of days have gone past of no talking since I said I needed time to think. And to be so for real I still have these insanely strong feelings for her, like I really really like her. And after thinking about it more, I want to show her that I can persue her in a romantic way. The way she deserves. I want to do some grand gesture to explain my feelings of how I want her, she’s the only thing I’ve wanted. prove that I am capable of loving her in the way she needs, The thing is I’m not sure what is the best way to do so, do I go to her house and do it in person.I feel like I should go to her house and speak to her in person with flowers and things I know she likes, But I don’t know if this would be considered weird. I wouldn’t mind her even saying no, but the thought of not trying and just letting her go is killing me. So I’d rather try in a sweet, and romantic way than not try and lose her in the end. Please let me know what you guys think id appreciate some help.
TLDR
**•**Met a great girl on Hinge 5 months ago, but told her I "wanted to be friends for now" because I was insecure.
•Recently invited her out, but she clarified she only wants friendship now because she took my earlier comment literally.
•I asked for some space but still have incredibly strong feelings for her.
•My Question: I want to do a grand romantic gesture (go to her house, send a letter) to prove I can pursue her properly. In a way she wanted to be perused. Is showing up in person too weird, and what is the best way to try one last time because in the end, I’d rather get a rejection that lose her completely.