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Dreamt I Crossed the Multiverse. Need Interpretation or Explanation

I was myself. Everything was normal, and I had an empty bag and a book about the rules to cross the multiverse so I wouldn’t be recognized. Most of it was staying out of sight, and what to do if someone DOES see you.

I went through a door, and ended up at my estranged Father’s house. This was my intention in the dream but I was trying to go back in time at a very specific point so I could get some childhood pictures. The thing is. It was a completely different house than the one that not-dream-me knows, but dream-me was very confident in where everything was.

I had ended up in the upstairs area that had a kitchenette, a second living room, and a large storage room that probably should’ve been a bedroom, but it connected to the attic so it made more sense to be storage. Almost all of the boxes in there were labeled with my name and I was going through them to fill up my bag when I heard someone coming up the stairs. It was my father, and I only know because I saw him through the crack.

When I saw he was making a drink in the kitchenette, I left the room and tried to leave via the same door I travelled through but it was gone!! So I went to the living room to look for one, and I heard him coming and I couldn’t think of anything so I laid on the floor and referenced my book. It gave me some line to say 3x and said it couldn’t guarantee he wouldn’t recognize me after some time, but to just get out as fast as I could.

When I stood back up, he was on the couch with his drink. He was staring at the tv, but never turned it on and was just drinking alone and in silence. He why I had been on the floor and I said I was a new house cleaner that was trying to make sure I didn’t miss any dust under the furniture.

Well we start chatting about this and that and he gets up and asks me to follow him. He leads me downstairs and it looked like the first house I remember living in. The one I lived in when he and my mother divorced when I was five. He brings me to my old bedroom and says “it needs dusting. I haven’t been in there in years, but I don’t want it to be dirty.” I go in and it’s set up the exact same way it was when I was little, but the pictures on the walls show that I lived there as a teenager. He walks in with me and looks around and starts to get tearful looking at the pictures and the collage boards and there’s a card on the bedside table he picks up and asks me to read it.

It’s a condolence card. I had apparently disappeared from that house when I was 17 and was presumed dead. When I finished reading the card, he asked me “why did you come back?” And I was in shock because I had forgotten I was supposed to leave and not let him recognize me. I didn’t have anything to say. He told me about how he looked and worried for months and couldn’t believe that after almost 10 years, I’d come back and pretend to be someone else entirely. He looked partly angry but mostly heartbroken. So I hugged him and told him the truth. That I wasn’t from that reality and I was trying to get to a different time in my own. I hugged him and told him I was sorry for causing him such a heavy grief.

I asked him “do I look happier now?” And he looked at me, and I mean REALLY looked and he smiled and said “you do.” I hugged him again and said “I have to go now” and I woke up in my bed.

I tried looking up the core pieces of the dream, but all the results were about how we actually travel to different multiverses when we dream and it made me sad. Bc if it’s true, that means I visited him in a dream the way my grandma visits me.

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u/Express-Stop-2108 — 7 days ago
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AIO: My BF Destroyed my Gym Confidence

So I (25F) have been dating my (25M) bf for about a year. A couple months into our relationship, I wanna say around month 4(?) he was feeling very insecure about his body and I had been gaining weight too so I suggested we start going to the gym together. For context, a year or two before we met, we had both been going consistently and been in the best shape of our lives

Anyway, he agreed to going together and I still had my PF membership so that’s where we went. I wanted to jump right back into my old routine (10 min. warmup on the treadmill or bike / stretch for 10-15 min. / cardio 30-45 min. / workout 30-45 min.) since it worked, I enjoyed it, and I felt good.

Well every time I had finished with cardio, he was ready to leave. I would tell him I hadn’t finished so he’d walk around with me to the different machines. But every time this happened, he always had… advice. “You don’t need to do that” “this is actually pointless” “that’s not helping you at all” so I’d just cut my workout early and go home. It was very discouraging and I tried to ignore him bc it worked for me before, but I still felt like he knew more. I stopped going after about a month because I just couldn’t take it anymore.

Surprise, surprise, as soon as I gave up, he started going to a different gym and would be there for 2+ hours. Which made me feel so much worse bc why is he allowed to workout for that long, but it was a problem when I wanted to do that??

Now it’s been 8 months since he’s been going, I am the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life, and I want to go back because I miss it and hate my body. The problem is: my gym confidence is completely destroyed. I have ONLY been doing cardio and then leaving. He also wants to go with me when I go instead of going to his own gym, so I don’t feel like I have the freedom to try anything and I end up asking him what I should do and he just says “upper body” or “lower body”. And it’s like… if you told me before I didn’t know what I was doing, why would you not HELP and show me exercises now????

I bawled my eyes out last night and told him that I don’t think he understands the damage he did because after a month straight of hearing that I have no idea what I’m doing in the gym, I FEEL like I don’t know what I’m doing. I feel like I’m starting over and so so dumb and have no idea where to start anymore.

So I just need to know if I’m overreacting by crying over it all the time and crying to him about it because I feel like a bitch baby

EDIT/UPDATE: I really appreciate everyone telling me to go to the gym without him and just do what works for me. It has been wonderful motivation and I’m in the parking lot now just typing this before I go in.

Thank you for all the comments. All the support. All the advice. You guys have really helped me just break through the fog of thinking he knows more/better bc he was (and is again) buff

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u/Express-Stop-2108 — 9 days ago