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From my former posts about mental health I think most people going through ttc/ IVF have panic attacks/anxiety/ depression and I feel like this space is a safe space since most of you understand the mental health struggle. If you dealt / are dealing with panic attacks how did you get over them? Is there even a way to get over them? I have been having panics and being scared every day every morning my heart races and my breath is fast dealing with this every morning. I’ve done therapy it didn’t help at all. Therapists didn’t know how to cure that. I’m starting to take medication but looking for any tips or advice regarding this. I always think I’m running out of time. So much time past and ai couldn’t get pregnant
Did IVF delay my natural chance of pregnancy?
what if it never happens? I’m certainly not going to be ok. How do I deal with life ? How do I move forward?? I have no passion and nothing is worth in life. The most important thing in life is having children. It gives a meaning to people’s lives. If you have any tips in dealing with mental health please feel free to write them as I’m desperate

I just got a call from my clinic. I had my third egg retrieval yesterday. They retrieved 11 eggs and only 2 fertilized. I’m so sad , desperate, devastated you name it. I don’t know where to go from here. My clinic only freezes day 5 embryos . They don’t freeze day 3 . And I’ve done 2 failed fresh transfers in the past. The whole process is so expensive and not guaranteed . My doctor is at a conference for 10 days so I can’t even discuss anything with him. I guess I need hugs and maybe reassurance , experiences . Thank you

I just got a call from my clinic. I had my third egg retrieval yesterday. They retrieved 11 eggs and only 2 fertilized. I’m so sad , desperate, devastated you name it. I don’t know where to go from here. My clinic only freezes day 5 embryos . They don’t freeze day 3 . And I’ve done 2 failed fresh transfers in the past. The whole process is so expensive and not guaranteed . My doctor is at a conference for 10 days so I can’t even discuss anything with him. I guess I need hugs and maybe reassurance , experiences . Thank you

Are you going to be ok if you failed IVF?
Can you move forward with your life?
I ask myself these questions pretty much every day and the answer so far is NO.
There is another question I ask myself as well
How am I going to accept myself if it didn’t happen?
I know many of you are going to say go to therapy. I’m doing therapy. So far they can’t change the reality they help a little with accepting the moment.

What are your answers to these question? They might help change my perspective if they are different than mine.
Thank you 🌷

I’m trying to relax, trying to be optimistic and accept my reality . Did you have 4 or 3 eggs retrieved only and you ended up being pregnant? Was it a frozen embryo transfer or a fresh embryo transfer? Your answer might give a lot of hope 🤍🌷

This is my third round of IVF
First protocol was: merional ( I hate it) the result was 4 eggs only one fertilized day 3 fresh transfer failed
2nd attempt: menpour only for like 10 days the result was much better 8 eggs 3 fertilized 2 day 5 embryo transfer FAILED
Changed the doctor
3rd attempt ( this one) with a different doctor: he gave me Elonva + Femaplex went into my 5 day ultrasound and there were only 3 eggs . I feel defeated!! The doctor gave me again Elonva and said to see me after 4 days
Is there any chance I would grow more follicles during these 4 days? Or there will only be 3 follicles to do egg retrieval with??? I don’t know if I want to go into surgery knowing I will only retrieve 3 eggs max??
I don’t know what to do or where to go in life from here. I hate Elonva now. If you have any experience I’d like to know

This is my third round of IVF
First protocol was: merional ( I hate it) the result was 4 eggs only one fertilized day 3 fresh transfer failed
2nd attempt: menpour only for like 10 days the result was much better 8 eggs 3 fertilized 2 day 5 embryo transfer FAILED
Changed the doctor
3rd attempt ( this one) with a different doctor: he gave me Elonva + Femaplex went into my 5 day ultrasound and there were only 3 eggs . I feel defeated!! The doctor gave me again Elonva and said to see me after 4 days
Is there any chance I would grow more follicles during these 4 days? Or there will only be 3 follicles to do egg retrieval with??? I don’t know if I want to go into surgery knowing I will only retrieve 3 eggs max??
I don’t know what to do or where to go in life from here. I hate Elonva now. If you have any experience I’d like to know

This is my third round of IVF
First protocol was: merional ( I hate it) the result was 4 eggs only one fertilized day 3 fresh transfer failed
2nd attempt: menpour only for like 10 days the result was much better 8 eggs 3 fertilized 2 day 5 embryo transfer FAILED
Changed the doctor
3rd attempt ( this one) with a different doctor: he gave me Elonva + Femaplex went into my 5 day ultrasound and there were only 3 eggs . I feel defeated!! The doctor gave me again Elonva and said to see me after 4 days
Is there any chance I would grow more follicles during these 4 days? Or there will only be 3 follicles to do egg retrieval with??? I don’t know if I want to go into surgery knowing I will only retrieve 3 eggs max??
I don’t know what to do or where to go in life from here. I hate Elonva now. If you have any experience I’d like to know

This question. I can’t imagine someone doing IVF/ ttc without struggling mentally. Do you go to therapy? Do you take any medication? I wanted to take sertaline but I heard it increases your anxiety the first week or so so I forgot about it I would rather deal with my normal anxiety than having it worse. It gets worse when I see my pregnant co worker or when I realize years go by so fast .

This month I used mucinex for ttc . My period is usually on time every month except for this month it was three days late with negative pregnancy tests. today I got some brown spotting so I assume my period is starting but I’m wondering why it was late. I read from so many women that mucinex delayed their ovulation. Did you have any experience with that? I’m so sad that my period is starting I really thought I might be pregnant but it has been so hard for me to get pregnant even with ICSI the transfer failed twice I’m supposed to do IVF again it is so hard … the stims the emotional and physical problems that come with it especially emotionally. The wait is so hard and time is running so fast not in my favor and making me anxious. I sometimes don’t think there is any use to life and I don’t have any passion any more . I know many of those going through IVF feeling the same and are struggling emotionally

I have had two retrievals and 2 failed transfers (fresh) and I work as a teacher. This year has been so hard on me mentally I have adjustment disorder from my infertility journey which caused me more anxiety etc. I had to go to work next day after my transfer and in tears after my failed transfers it was the hardest year. My contract is with the school year begins and finishes in summer and once you start your contract you can’t resign in what so ever reason unless it is official from the doctor. And I got a few days to decide whether to stop my contract and see where I’m with IVF (because I’m doing another retrieval and a mock transfer then the transfer will be in August once schools start hopefully) or maybe I might get delays from the doctor for whatever reason in that case I’ll talk to my manager to return to work on August. She said I can call her but it has to be the beginning of August. What do you think? Is it a good idea to terminate my contract until I see where I ‘m at with all of this and to not feel the pressure to go back to school when I’m not ready. Or should I just continue with whatever circumstances that face me even if I’m not ready . Working as a teacher while facing infertility is extremely hard you see kids and siblings everywhere, pregnancy , etc

I have been struggling like so many people here mentally of course. I feel good reading success stories but then in reality I would get angry sometimes believing they are not true / rare / just for content etc … I have anxiety and panic attacks but I have no support that’s why asking and writing here on Reddit feels like there are other people in the world who are going through the same thing.
It is so discouraging to read the stories here most of them make me feel like time is up , IVF at this age is a waste of money , time and mental health etc. but at the same time women have gotten pregnant in their 40’s for thousands of years .
It also makes me feel stupid and regretting sooo much not getting pregnant sooner and not knowing it declines so much with age. Didn’t know that until I experienced it. Therapy doesn’t seem to help . I’ve talked to a few therapists and it just didn’t help I still have regrets / panic/ anxiety etc. and thoughts about life stops when people get old … I keep thinking about how old people continue to live with no hope in life nothing to look forward to? etc …
How do you keep going / living life? Do you live with regret everyday?
Do you take any medication while doing IVF to keep you sane? My doctor said he obviously doesn’t prescribe that kind of medication but I might suggest some names for him,
I have done two ER,s and two transfers and I’m getting insane already . How am I going to have more ER’s while keeping my sanity? How do you do it?

I went to the doctor today 1 month after my failed transfer. Hoping to do stims again but they found 2 cysts in my ovaries and he said it is not the perfect situation to do stims and either to take birth control pills or just wait until next month. I chose to wait until next month because my mental health can’t accept BCP anymore.. both cysts are not big. and the doctor told me to workout.
Did any of you experience the same?
Did the cysts go on their own?
What helped them dissolve was it workout? Hot drinks?
Did I do the right decision?
I’m obviously so sad so many delays and time is not Not on my side at all ..

Hello everyone. How are you doing? I hope everyone is doing great..

I had two failed transfers. One of them was a day 3 . The other was 2 day 5 embryos . Both didn’t stick but the second destroyed me. Literally. It is now the 3rd or 4th week after my last failed transfer and I’m slowly getting back to normal (comes in waves I ‘m sure everyone went through IVF understands that) I’v had mild panic attacks the last weeks especially in the morning. Anxiety, self blaming .. my mental health is the worst these days.. all my self worth issues (thinking I’m worthless ) anxiety issues that I thought I overcame came to the surface. Turned out that I never overcame these they came into surface with this very emotionally draining process. I guess I want to rant to everyone who understands and ask did you take any medication? Because I can’t imagine doing egg retrieval and transfer without taking some medication. Some friends suggested taking Cipralex. Did you have any experience with that during IVF?

I have been following this sub for a while now , although there are many success stories I always feel a bit discouraged with most of the stories.. they make me feel like success in 40’s is a miracle that doesn’t happen to anyone.. IVF messed alot with my mental health I see life as dark , scary .. I’v had two failed transfers and we will do tests but the last transfer really messed with my brain .. am I right to think success stories are just miracles and rare cases? Am I right to think that our chances are just so low due to age?

Those who took DHEA as a supplement. What was the result? I’m afraid to take it. I’m taking currently lots of supplements but I asked my previous doctor about DHEA he said not to take it, then I asked my current doctor and he said I can take 1 pill a day (25 m) . I want to know your experiences with that I’m afraid it would mess my hormones or egg quality?
Thank you