u/Extension_Town9505

Assalamualikum,

How does one behave nicely to people they have grievances from the past? Especially if they are blood relations. If you can not put distance between them and yourself. Also, how does one not take up the bad habits of their family when they are isolated from anyone else?

What examples are there of this from the Prophets' lives and the sahabas?

I used to isolate myself in my room, get out to do important work, and go back. I was coaxed out and mingled because they considered it abnormal for me to stay in my room. I occupied myself with Alhumdullilah beneficial things. Now I wish I could go back to my shell. But I am just reactive.

Please refrain from Islamophobia۔

I am just considering it in light of my personal situation etc I do have alternatives. InshaAllah.

However the idea of being denied visa, being needlessly deported, attacked are somethings I am worried about.

I have generally traditional views but they are limited to me I don't have the aim to impose my way of living on others InshaAllah that doesn't mean I wouldn't like to meet other practicing Muslims.

As far as appreciating a culture goes, no one appreciates every aspect of a culture. I don't completely accept eastern/asian/arab culture either tbh. I can Allhumdullilah enjoy different cultural arts, nature, food and languages etc unless they are diametrically opposing to my religious views or unsafe/inaccessible. Saying this before someone says why move to a different country if you can't assimilate.