r/SalafiCentral

If you are only salafi in the family

And they are kind of liberals and they wont let you marry a salafi.

How would you handle this?

And its kinda difficult for you to make them understand cause they wont.

And

If the same situation is in when you are a secret salafi like you dont have yet revealed that you are a Salafi.

If merging both the above situation with being a female secret salafi .

So in these three situations how will you manage?

In-sha-Allah, this will be a compilation of the 'Aqīdah of the scholars of the Salaf al-Ṣāliḥ. This thread will be locked, in-sha-Allah, to not drive further confusion.

Assalamualaikum, I know this seems pretty random but I really wanted to drink my wife's breastmilk for intimacy reasons, but I don't know if it's allowed or not. I've heard it doesn't affect mahram status, but what I want to know is if it's sinful or not

Marriage in Islam is not merely a social contract.

It is not only a lawful way to fulfill desire.

Marriage is part of religion.

When a person marries with the right intention, marriage becomes worship.

• It protects chastity. • It trains the soul. • It controls the ego. • It builds families. • It raises future believers. • It teaches patience, mercy, sacrifice, service, and responsibility.

A person marries to obey Allah. He marries to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ. He marries to protect himself. He marries to serve his family. He marries to raise a righteous generation.

So marriage is not a small matter. It is one of the greatest doors to the pleasure of Allah.

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✦ Marriage is a Sign of Allah ✦

Allah made marriage part of His plan for human life.

A man and woman were not created to live without each other.

Allah placed love, mercy, comfort, and tranquillity between husband and wife.

Two strangers become the closest people to each other.

Who placed this love? Who placed this mercy? Who joined two lives together?

It is Allah.

Marriage makes a person see the planning of Allah, the mercy of Allah, the wisdom of Allah, and the help of Allah in daily life.

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✦ Marriage Protects a Major Part of Religion ✦

It protects the eyes. It protects the heart. It protects the body. It protects the mind.

It protects a person from haram relationships, emotional weakness, dirty thoughts, and unnecessary attachment.

That is why marriage is not outside religion.

Marriage is inside religion.

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✦ Marriage Was the Way of the Prophet ﷺ ✦

The Prophet ﷺ got married.

He lived family life.

He carried responsibility.

He showed mercy to his wives.

He taught the Ummah through his home.

His home was not separate from his mission.

Religion is not only in the masjid.

Religion is also in the house.

Religion is in how a man speaks to his wife.

Religion is in how a woman protects her home.

Religion is in patience, service, forgiveness, and mercy.

A person’s real character is not seen only outside.

It is seen at home.

Outside, people praise you. Outside, people respect you. Outside, you control your image.

At home, your real self appears.

A man who is good outside but harsh with his wife has incomplete character.

A woman who shows good manners outside but destroys peace at home also has incomplete character.

Marriage exposes the soul.

Marriage tests religion.

Marriage shows who you are.

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✦ The Scholars Also Got Married ✦

The Muhadditheen got married.

The Mufassireen got married.

The jurists got married.

The righteous got married.

They did not see marriage as a barrier to knowledge.

They understood that marriage is part of life, worship, and legacy.

Many scholars came from homes of knowledge.

Fathers taught children. Mothers raised scholars. Wives preserved knowledge. Children carried the legacy.

Having children is not merely reproduction.

It is tarbiyah.

It is amanah.

It is passing Islam to the next generation.

It is raising people who will pray, worship Allah, serve the Ummah, and continue good after your death.

When your righteous children worship Allah, your reward continues.

Your voice stops. Your body dies. Your actions end.

But your children continue.

This is a great blessing.

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✦ Marriage Makes Islam Practical ✦

It is easy to speak about patience.

Marriage tests patience.

It is easy to speak about mercy.

Marriage tests mercy.

It is easy to speak about sacrifice.

Marriage demands sacrifice.

It is easy to speak about good character.

Marriage proves character.

In marriage, you cannot escape responsibility.

You provide. You forgive. You listen. You control anger. You give time. You care. You carry others.

Marriage purifies the soul.

It removes selfishness.

It breaks the ego.

It teaches you that life is not only about your comfort, desire, plan, and freedom.

Marriage teaches you to live for others.

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✦ Marriage Teaches the Names of Allah ✦

Marriage makes you understand Allah’s wisdom in a practical way.

You see Allah’s decree when two lives meet.

You see Allah’s mercy when love grows between husband and wife.

You see Allah’s provision when you spend on your family and Allah opens doors.

You see Allah’s wisdom when you raise children and understand why Islam gave rights, duties, limits, and guidance.

You see Allah’s help when problems come and Allah makes a way out.

You see Allah’s planning when things happen in ways you never expected.

Books teach knowledge.

Marriage teaches life.

Marriage makes you experience the creation of Allah.

It makes you see your weakness.

It makes you see your need for Allah in every stage of life.

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✦ Sacrifice is the Heart of Marriage ✦

Marriage is sacrifice.

A husband sacrifices comfort, money, time, freedom, and energy for his wife and children.

A wife sacrifices time, comfort, priorities, and strength for her husband and children.

Both give. Both carry. Both forgive. Both serve. Both fight the ego.

Marriage is not merely romance.

It is not merely companionship.

✦ It is worship through responsibility. ✦

When a husband earns for his family, it is reward.

When a wife takes care of her home, it is reward.

When parents raise children, it is reward.

When husband and wife forgive each other, it is reward.

When they protect each other from haram, it is reward.

When they tolerate each other for Allah, it is reward.

Even small acts are not wasted.

A morsel of food given to the wife is charity. A kind word is charity.

A silent sacrifice is known to Allah. A hidden tear is known to Allah. Tiredness is known to Allah. Patience is known to Allah.

No sincere action is lost.

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✦ Marriage Protects the Ummah ✦

Marriage does not serve only two people.

It serves the Ummah.

Through marriage, families continue.

Children are born. Faith is taught. Salah is preserved. Qur’an is recited. Good manners are passed down.

Islamic identity moves from one generation to another.

If men and women reject marriage without valid reason, families weaken.

Generations weaken.

The Ummah weakens.

Then who will raise the next believers? Who will teach them Qur’an? Who will teach them haya? Who will teach them salah? Who will protect their hearts from corruption?

Marriage is not only personal.

It is religious.

It is social.

It is generational.

It is service to Allah’s creation.

Marriage is not a distraction from religion when done correctly.

It is part of religion.

The Prophet ﷺ married.

The righteous married.

The scholars married.

The carriers of hadith and tafsir married.

They understood the value of marriage.

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✦ Final Point ✦

Marriage is worship. Marriage is chastity. Marriage is mercy. Marriage is sacrifice. Marriage is responsibility. Marriage is tarbiyah. Marriage is preserving lineage. Marriage is raising future believers. Marriage is passing Islam to the next generation.

Marriage makes a person witness the planning of Allah, the help of Allah, the provision of Allah, and the wisdom of Allah in every stage of life.

It is a lifelong field of reward.

Every second can become reward. Every movement can become reward. Every act of service can become reward. Every sacrifice can become reward.

For the one who marries with sincere intention and lives it correctly, marriage is one of the greatest doors to the pleasure of Allah.

I want to buy a car, all cash.

My dad has the money.

He will gift it to me if I ask but don't won't to do so.

Instead can I borrow and pay him back monthly with a premium?

Let's say the car is 20k and I pay my dad 23k over the course of 2 years.

Reason I want to borrow from my dad is because if death comes to me this dept would be made halal.

Reason I want to give a premium, With inflation and all, he is only going at a loss. I don't want him to feel that his money is returning to him slowly at a loss. So the premium is to keep up with inflation and seem like he did not lose by lending it to me.

Also paying the premium makes me more comfortable to ask my dad.

I know about interest, the premise here is similar but I am the one who want to pay the premium. I hope my intention is clear here, ask questions to better understand what I mean.

Would like some advice.

الله أكبر، الله أكبر، لا اله الا الله، والله أكبر، الله أكبر، ولله الحمد!

_"Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest, there is no god except Allah. And Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest, and to Allah belongs all praise.”_

Assalamualaikum . I am a young muslim (alhamdulillah) trying to get close to ALLAH SWT and gain his love, mercy and forgiveness. I am trying to stay from social media as much as I can alhamdulillah. It contains music, women with awrah exposed and what not. I stopped watching those funny memes because they have this element of music too. Alhamdulillah ALLAH SWT has shown me what pleases him and what doesn't. The thing is I feel low many times when I have repented from these things and try to improve my deen. There is this hadith which mentions people who will be under shade of ALLAH SWT (its a well known hadith) and one of them is a person who spent his youth in worshipping ALLAH SWT. So I want to be this person, Alhamdulillah, ALLAH SWT has made this hadith clear to me. Now there are times with me when I feel I don't have enough strength to increase in good deeds, like for example, say I pray sunnah regularly , but sometimes when I return from mosque, I feel lazy and skip it. Just an example, it can happen with regular adhkar too. Another thing is sometimes I feel like I just want an easy life, like completing just fard acts like 5 times salah, fasts in ramadan, give zakah when ALLAH SWT makes me eligible for it, Do hajj insha Allah, but a person who strives and struggles more than me will gain a higher rank in front of ALLAH SWT and i would be looking in regret and saying maybe I could have done more good and struggled and become more beloved to ALLAH SWT (may ALLAH SWT protect me) . You get what I am saying right? Like sheikh othman al khamees said, if you don't lower gaze, then don't say tomorrow (in afterlife) that why the person who lowered his gaze has a higher status. This dunya is attractive, deception. Yesterday I was kid, Today I am a teenager or adult ig, tomorrow I will leave this world. ALLAH SWT has made clear the path for eternal happiness. Alhamdulillah ALLAH SWT has blessed me with this thing of accepting what is halal and haram without trying to justify it or making haram things halal, and alhamdulillah I am aware of the common fitna of today, like music, free mixing etc, like I met some people who try to say these things are ok, may ALLAH SWT protect us and guide everyone to truth. So what I am saying is that tomorrow if ALLAH SWT questions me for my sins, I cannot say that I was unaware or I was ignorant. I hope you get me. I just scattered all my thoughts😭.

In short I want to ask, , how to push ourselves in doing good deeds when we feel like we have less strength and when our nafs call us to sins making us these dunya things attractive? What halal enjoyment would u suggest to a brother who has no friends (offline) or say doesn't go out much, to keep his mind refreshed? How to stay consistent on repentance and good deeds?

Jazak Allahu khair.

Lately I've been pretty down and my imaan has been low, because as a revert I genuinely do not have muslim friends to sit and have discussions with.

Internet friends are fine but I'm looking irl, if you live in North BLR, India, or know someone who does please send me a DM thanks.

I would like to meet and hangout, go to masjids together, dars, bookstores and other islamic occasions.

This is a common myth and the reason I can tell that this is a myth is because I've lived on the other side of this dynamic.

My husband is so busy earning bread (genuinely) he doesn't get much time for islamic studies, while I spend most of my time studying islam. So I am his primary teacher.

I have a habit of quoting the Qur'an, or the sunnah or scholars, every time I speak. So when we are in a heated conversation and I am angry, I basically use every islamic evidence I can to get my point across even if I'm wrong.

In the moment of heat, I did not realise my mistake, just today I was upset about something, and I said “When men become men, then women will become women; the defect (fault) is not on the woman.”

— [From his Sharh al-Adab al-Mufrad, lesson 16].

My husband often tells me I use islam as a weapon against him. Sometimes he snaps just as the women we commonly hear about snap.

But never in my life have I ever thought to use islam to benefit myself, in the moment of anger shaytan overpowers us and we become like this. I believe the same goes for the men who get accused of this, shaytan overpowers them in the moment of anger, they don't truly want to use islam as a weapon against their wife.

At the end of the day everyone should seek islamic knowledge, and know their rights, I believe the fault isn't on anyone, rather everyone should have knowledge of islam so as to not fall into such situations.

Assalamaleikum wrhmtl, I have to memorise a poem for my lingustics class and I can choose whatever I like. I want to memorise an arabic poem that I can benefit from as well as my non-muslim collegues. Do you have any ideas or suggestions?

Jazakum Allahu khairan

What do you guys think of this subreddit? Personally, I think 99% of them are western muslims and some kafirs who reject the entire hadith corpus and make fun of the hijab, and I see some make fun of us Salafis.

قَالَ الْحَسَنُ:

الدُّنْيَا ثَلَاثَةُ أَيَّامٍ: أَمَّا أَمْسِ فَقَدْ ذَهَبَ بِمَا فِيهِ، وَأَمَّا غَدٌ فَلَعَلَّكَ لَا تُدْرِكُهُ، وَالْيَوْمُ لَكَ فَاعْمَلْ فِيهِ.

Al‑Ḥasan said:

“The world is three days: as for yesterday, it has gone with all that was in it; as for tomorrow, perhaps you will not reach it; and today is yours, so act in it.”

كلام الليالي والأيام لابن أبي الدنيا (١/٤٠)

Title, really curious about this as I haven’t been able to find a clear answer. Thanks!