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Halal heartbreak. Wasn’t a haram relationship. I feel as if someone close to me has died. My whole body hurts. I cry until my eyes burn. It’s unbearable. Help me please.

This is simply a friendly reminder... as one of the best things I have done for myself by the Grace of Allah is to delete those apps and not worry about such presence in the first place.

We Muslims are far exalted than such lowly stimulation, and that energy & time is supposed to be dedicated to lecture hours, learning your religion under the shuyukh (whether online or in-person), reading the Qur'an, even developing a beneficial skillset.

May Allah bless you all, just a friendly warning.

Assalam alaikum, sorry if this will sound inappropriate or like a rant.

I just can't anymore physically or mentally go on with being unmarried. I am a 22 yo man still in uni with 1 year left and ever since i hit puberty the desires have just gotten worse and worse.

But it's not only that, i just do not tolerate seeing other young couples that i see on the streets or appear to me on social media. I hate also seeing kuffar doing all of the haram stuff they do in this hypersexualized society.

Meanwhile around me it seems that there is no prospect for me to get married, the options are very few and it's just hard to find a religious muslim woman. I have been making dua for years, i need relief. It's very hard every single day to fight my nafs and my negative thoughts. I am always worried and can't be at peace. I feel like no human being understands me.

I just need advice on what to do or at least make dua that Allah make a way out for me and that i get married with goodness.

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

This is just a bit of a rant.

I hate it when people praise me. They see me pray an obligatory prayer and say things like “he’s so religious” or I’ll grow my beard out a little and will receive a similar response.

I’ve never done zina, I’ve never done that dating stuff, maybe I’m a bit awkward, maybe I’m not the most attractive guy.
But there are times that I’ve been very, very close.

To this day I fear I’m going to do zina one day. I just can’t stop thinking about these things. Once a week or every few weeks I genuinely fear I will do it. I feel that it’s inevitable, that it’s going to happen.

I acknowledge that it’s wrong and that it’s haram. But even if I did do it, I’m not going to let that stop me from practicing Islam.

Of course I fear Allah, but when my nafs is in the drivers seat or even the shaytan or whatever, it’s very difficult to think.

The weather is getting hotter and hotter and women (and men) are wearing less and less clothing in the west and everywhere, but this heat should be a reminder of the hellfire. Be careful my brothers (and sisters).

Assalamualaikum, I’m planning on making an art account but I’m worried It could be showing off? I’m thinking of posting my arts since I really love to see what other ppl will say and maybe I might as well start a business later on but then at the same time I get these thoughts that why am I even making an art account, to show my artworks then isn’t it showing off? This is kind of confusing me and I don’t know if I’m crossing the line.

Asc, im looking for the really good pure Arabic nasheeds, none of the hype stuff just the good old poetry from salafs.

I remember I once stumbled upon it but cant find them now.

Assalamualaikum! I do not speak Arabic but want to know these answers from REAL scholars. Can someone please answer these questions according to the strictest opinion from the senior scholars (Ibn Baz, Ibn Uthaymeen, Ibn Taymiyyah, Salih al Fawzan, etc.) or Saudi Fatwa Council. I have tried searching the website, but it is hard to do a search even with AI translations.

1. Do ANY of the Salafi scholars view homosexuality/sodomy as kufr akbar (I am not gay but heard it was an issue of dispute yet I never heard anyone specific say it was before)?
2. Does publicly bragging about a sin and not repenting from that sin = tahlil and kufr (I saw a translation of Ibn Uthaymeen that seemed to indicate something like this, but I always thought this was just a continuous sin and someone with week iman)?
3. Does repeatedly sinning without any repentance in between and without much remorse equal kufr akbar if one never claims it is halal? Is this considered tahlil through actions?
4. Does not wearing the hijab and not really feeling that bad about it (but knowing it is haram not to) equal kufr akbar through imitating the disbelievers?
5. Is wearing something that is culturally associated with the nonmuslims but not religiously equal kufr akbar (such as a French baret, a hairstyle/makeup style associated with a particular singer/celebrity, a Japanese or Chinese-style dress, etc.)?
6. Are birthday new years, christmas, and birthday celebrations (done to please nonmuslim relatives) kufr akbar due to the Hadith of (paraphrasing) whoever imitates a people is like them and the Hadith about (paraphrasing) being raised up with a people on the day of judgement?
7. According to the view that skipping a single obligatory prayer out of laziness is kufr akbar, is that person immediately divorced, and must they do ghusl and take the shahada before their next obligatory prayer?
8. Is loving, hugging, and kissing my nonmuslim relatives haram? Is it kufr akbar if I don't consider it haram (I thought I heard someone say that Salih al Fawzan says it is not permissible to kiss a nonmuslim relative on the head as this is showing affection, but I might be completely wrong)?
9. According to the view that not skipping a prayer without a valid excuse is kufr, does praying in an invalid way (such as the person who recites incorrectly after being negligent in perfecting arabic) equal kufr?

I know I ask a lot of questions, and I apologize, but I really want to learn since I feel I have been negligent in the past and am not good at navigating the official fatwa websites. May Allah grant those who respond truthfully beautiful spouses, pious families, and Jannah!

** Please link your sources if possible, and do not hold me anyone says something wrong in the comments.

** I  am a layman, so if someone says something incorrect in the comments, do not hold me responsible or think I endorse it. May Allah guide us and grant us Jannah!

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته , I am so shocked by the majority liberal feministic version of islam that is going around on certain subreddits. I responded to a post about a girl correcting another girl who was publicly sinning by wearing wrong hijab and I got absolutely flamed, saying its between them and Allah, I am driving people away from the religion etc. Is there any hikmah in responding to these types of posts? How about the obligation to enjoin good and forbid evil, is it allowed to stay quiet in such cases?

The girl genuinely made no mistake and was just defending proper hijab, ofcourse I want to support her. But wow. The backlash is INSANE.

Is it allowed to stay quiet and avoid such fitnah? JazakAllahu khairan

Can someone please tell me the names and arguments of ANY scholars (dead or alive) that considered homosexuality kufr akbar? Please do not just tell me it is haram, I know that and do not engage in it, but I want to know the names and arguments specifically (links are appreciated, as I don’t speak Arabic, so it is hard for me to find these things).

The reason I ask for the name of scholars that consider it kufr is that I specifically heard from a salafi student of knowledge that it‘s an issue of dispute, so I wanted to know the argument from those that argue that it is. I heard it is important and part of fard ‘ayn to know what does and doesn’t invalidate one’s Islam, so I would like to be informed.

I saw (unsure if this is accurate) a translated quote from (I think, but am not sure) Ibn al-Qayyim (who I heard was a student of Ibn Taymiyyah, but the source is only what the internet said, so I may be mistaken) that said “For homosexuality involves innumerable evil and harms, and the one to whom it is done would be better off being killed than having this done to him, because after that he will become so evil and so corrupt that there can be no hope of his being reformed, and all good is lost for him, and he will no longer feel any shame before Allaah or before His creation. The semen of the one who did that to him will act as a poison on his body and soul. The scholars differed as to whether the one to whom it is done will ever enter Paradise*. There are* two opinions which I heard Shaykh al-Islam may Allaah have mercy on him narrate.” al-Jawaab al-Kaafi, p. 115.

The words “will ever enter paradise” indicate to me that one of these opinions is that the act of homosexuality (even if one acknowledges it is haram) is kufr akbar and that the one who dies without repenting from it will enter the hellfire for eternity (and thus will not ever enter paradise), according to one of the opinions. I feel like this is not the same wording as when major sins are described and it is said that the doer will not enter paradise, since “will not” could be referring to the fact that they will not enter immediately (Ie. will enter paradise but will be in hell for their sins first), but disputes over whether they “will EVER enter” makes me think that a scholar views this as kufr akbar (since only nonmuslims will not EVER enter paradise). I really want to know who the scholars that claim it is kufr are and what their argument is (because a report from a student of Ibn Taymiyyah holds a lot of weight in my opinion, but my lack of Arabic may mean I am misinterpreting the text, so I want the names and arguments of the scholars that say it is kufr directly). Sorry for the long message, please respond though with the actual answer (not just reminding me that it is haram). May Allah grant you Jannah.

I also heard there is a Hadith calling sodomy kufr, that the Quran (translated/ paraphrased) calls homosexuality (the act) “the worst sin” (so does that mean it is kufr since shirk is often called the worst sin in Islam?). We know that many scholars deem some acts to be kufr akbar (such as skipping a prayer without a valid excuse) even if they do not view a haram thing as halal. Is homosexuality one of these acts according to any scholar?

Also, in the Hadith of the 7 major sins, does the fact that homosexuality is not listed yet is called the “worst sin” in the Quran translation I read indicate that it is lumped in with shirk/kufr?

TLDR: please tell me the argument and names of the scholars (if any) who deemed the act of homosexuality kufr akbar. If you think there aren’t any, please read the full post (not trying to change minds, just want to be thorough). Please link sources. TYSM!!

*** I am a layman who does not speak Arabic, so do not take this writing as knowledge or something to pass on. I am merely looking for information. Also, I do not necessarily say that homosexuality is kufr akbar, but I would like guidance. May Allah grant you goodness.

Assalamu alaykum

I'm a teenager, starting high school soon. Our high schools are mixed, and I have to go. Is there sin upon me if I go, wearing proper hijab, without interacting with the male students (we don't really do group projects so there is basically no chance teachers will make me and I won't initiate any conversation myself) and adhering to rules of modesty in class, with students and teachers alike?

We don't have separated classes by gender in any schools as far as I'm aware. We have an Islamic school that isn't upon the Quran and sunnah, and I believe the classes are mixed there, too. Males sit on one side and females on the other, no screen or wall between them either. It isn't that much different to public high schools where students usually tend to separate like that on their own.

Is it ok for a woman to go overseas to study, if her mahram accompanies her during the travel to and fro, and the university offers segregated and safe accomadation for her?

There are no universities which offer Islamic studies where I live, and I hope to go to Saudi to further my Islamic studies. But I'm hesitant because I have no mahram to stay with me there throughout my education. But my father is willing to accompany me on my travels to and fro. Or is it better for me to just seek knowledge online while pursuing an acadmic degree in my country itself?

Also, which universities in Saudi(preferably Makkah & Madinah or at least nearby) are good options to consider? My arabic(fusha) is intermediate and I hope to study Syariah or Da'wah if offered.

I heard that people who heard about islam but people told them bad things about it will not be punished

But what about people who heard about islam but didn't study it deeply, like just "yes i know about islam they pray 5 times a day and etc."

they just know about it existing but didn't get full dawah, what will happen to them?

For those enrolled into AMAU,

When it comes to note taking, are we supposed to write down every point? I just started and I keep having to pause the video to write down the evidence for the points given. So a 20 minute video takes me maybe twice as long.

If that is what needs to be done then insha'allah khair, but it feels like I almost focus more on note taking then I do the actual points and what the ustaad is saying.

I was thinking about switching to a laptop and just taking screen shots of each evidence, but I do somewhat prefer an actual notebook. And I don't have an ipad to where I could combine the two

Also I somewhat feel overwhelmed by it, one thing I like about seeking knowledge is being able to just listen to the knowledge given and reflecting. But again I feel more focused on the note taking, which makes me enjoy it somewhat less. But when it comes to seeking ilm, you have to make sacrifices so Allahu A'lim

Has anyone else struggled with this? And what solution did you find?

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

This is my second post, and I really need advice and support. Please tag any shaykhs or people of knowledge who may be able to help.

My husband and I fight almost every day. We live nine hours apart and, due to circumstances, we have never seen each other in person.

Since the day I met him, I have cried almost every day. I feel that he struggles to take accountability for his actions, and I find it very difficult to cope when a man raises his voice at me or speaks harshly during arguments.

Today, he called me, and I was quiet because I felt like we would end up fighting again. I used to be very bubbly and loved talking, but lately I don’t feel like myself anymore.

He told me he was very tired because of work and said, “I booked an appointment with a doctor.” I replied, “Maybe it’s not a doctor you need to see. Maybe your iman is low.”

He became upset and said, “Oh, because I sin?” I said, “Maybe, or maybe you need to change some things about yourself.” He continued speaking in a raised voice and said, “It’s like I’m committing zina.”

I replied, “Zina isn’t the only sin. Maybe it’s also about a person’s character.”

He then sarcastically said, “Wow, with all the khutbahs I’ve attended, no one has ever said this.” I felt judged and as though he was treating me like I was stupid.

I then said, “Your thinking is like that of the Khawarij.” He became even more upset and raised his voice. I started crying and crying. Eventually, I said, “I’m sorry, I can’t do this anymore,” and ended the call.

Instead of calling me back right away, he called his mother. When he called me again, he continued speaking about the Khawarij. I told him, “If you had only asked me kindly…”

This is how I wish my husband would speak to me:

Me: “Your thinking is like the Khawarij.”

Him: “Oh… what do you mean by that, hayati? Do you know what that means?”

Me: “Let me explain why I said it.”

Him: “Okay, but please understand that I’m not like that, and I don’t appreciate being called that.”

Me: “You’re right. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

Am I crazy for wanting this? If I say something wrong, I want my husband to correct me with kindness and teach me gently. I don’t want to be met with anger, harshness, or raised voices.

I have told him many times that I want to be corrected with rahmah (mercy) and gentle manners, but nothing seems to change.

Am I wrong for wanting kindness when I make mistakes?