“Lent ₹10k To Our Cook. Biggest Mistake of 2025.”
I learnt a costly life lesson in Hyderabad.
Back in October 2025, our cook asked for ₹10,000 advance before going home for Diwali. He said things like:
“Bhaiya thoda advance chahiye , ghar jaa raha Hun bacchon ke lie kapde lene hein ,Bhaiya aap aise mat samjhiye ki me paisa leke bhag jaunga… me yahin hostel me kaam karta hun.”
He promised he’d return after Diwali.
I trusted him and transferred the full amount because honestly, I felt bad for him.
After that, he disappeared.
Didn’t pick calls. Didn’t reply properly.
Then in February I found out he was back in Hyderabad.
Every month after that:
“Next month de dunga bhaiya.”
After months of follow-ups, he finally gave me a date: 12th May.
Called him again no response.
Today I called from my friend’s number and asked:
“Bhaiya paisa kab lautaenge?”
His response:
“Nahi lautaenge. Jo karna hai kar lijiye.”
At this point it’s not even about ₹10,000 anymore.
It’s about how casually people break trust after emotionally manipulating you.
3 lessons I learnt:
Never give large cash advances without written proof.
Don’t let emotions override common sense.
If you lend money, assume there’s a chance you may never get it back.
What would you guys do in this situation?