u/Extreme-Clock-2895

Sorry, this is kind of a long question but I’m (M22 and be new to dating) wondering because to be honest I’ve not dated really before, but I’ve been trying to recently and me and my best friends are pretty open and these are friends that I trust a whole lot to talk to me about stuff and was just wondering what you all thought

I’ve had friends who summer guys and summer girls, but they have all kind of agreed when they have told me how this is usually went. They don’t just like go on dates of people who are just strangers or anything and at most it is like a friend of a friend that they are very close to or an actual friend. my friend, I mean people that they have been friends with for either like three months or maybe they’ve even been friends for years.

My guy, best friend who I know is a good dude and doesn’t have any bad intentions told me that since he’s pretty much only dated friends and seriously dated them that he has kind of just never used a condom with any of them since they were on BC and he trusted them as a friend. Sometimes they even hooked up on the first date and never used anything.

How risky is that or would you say it’s risky since it’s a friend?

So I (M22) feel a bit slow but to be honest, I genuinely am not really a fan of just hooking up or dating somebody that you don’t necessarily know that well and I was talking to my friend the other day and apparently it comes off as if I haven’t asked out tons of girls on dates

Sometimes, like I will meet a friend of one of my friends, maybe I meet a girl at a hobby or something and we talk and I get their social media so we can keep in touch and become friends but then usually after having a conversation on social media I ask if they want to meet up and hang 1 on 1

Have I really just been asking women on dates unintentionally and then friend zoning them since I don’t make any move?

So at 22M I’m still in college and recently I’ve been trying to look for jobs that I can have a good benefits and advance and or work in a field that I would really like to work in.

I would really like to work in sports and specifically soccer or basketball, also there are some really good office jobs that I would be very happy with if I got. I’ll admit my stutter is way better than it was even when I was a senior in high school and I’m just not really sure what to do.

My stutter style is like when you start stuttering at the start of your sentence, but you can get the rest after you get the first word. It’s annoying, but it’s definitely not the worst that I’ve seen and to be honest. I’m just not really sure how I should go about this because I know many office jobs or professional jobs outside of retail/restaurant want you to have a good communication.