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When the Termite problem hits Lorelai & Rory, Lorelai is absolutely determined to avoid going to her parents for financial support to have her house cleansed and fixed, due to her pride.

Of course, that ends up getting derailed when Rory reveals the problem to E&R at a Friday night dinner, leading to the loan being cosigned with Emily.

Pretend that, as Lorelai wished, Rory kept her mouth shut and E&R didn't learn about the termite problem.

What would have Lorelai's realistic ultimate solution to the termite/foundation problem, if she successfully kept her parents in the dark?

I, an (almost) 33M sadly received my first rejection from a woman last year. It was also the first time I had attempted to ask anyone out directly. Yeah, I'm in my early 30s and I'm still pretty new at this, in practice.

To seriously condense a longer story, I had met her in person (this was after I had scrapped my failed app accounts), and would periodically, though infrequently, see her at the same place, a local dog park. We did become FB friends at one point, since it turned out we have a few mutual friends on there.

Over a year ago, I decided to shoot my shot just before Valentine's Day, though I ended up not seeing her in person, so I tried in the only method I had available: FB Messenger.

And it turned out that it was several months before she saw the message, and when she did, she respectfully turned me down.

Since that day, I have seen her a couple more times at that same location, and she seemed just as friendly as she had always been (and never actually mentioned my attempt to ask her out).

I'm mulling trying again IF I see her again at the dog park, but I'm not dead set on it. It's been around 8 or so months since that rejection.

I'll certainly respect her wishes if she were to turn me down again, but I'd like to know what (if any) standards there are for situations like this.

I don't have a lot of realistic prospects for meeting people, and she was the first person in a LONG time that seemed like there might be a chance with.

In the absence of anyone else that's really capturing my attention so far, is it potentially worthwhile to try again, given the large time gap?

UPDATE:

I appreciate the responses so far, but I want to make it clear that I am NOT obsessing. I'm not expecting anything and I'm only mildly considering trying again.

I'll most likely not try again, but I wanted to at least ask on here to get some perspectives. It was challenging enough to ask the first time.

The sad fact is that I am rather lonely. I did try the dating apps, but scrapped them over 2 years in after a 100% Failure rate (as in not even one match or message/reply that wasn't spam or a bot).

I am currently seeing a professional to try and sort out these issues, and they are suggesting I try the apps again which I am reluctantly considering.