Do guys actually play the “game” when it comes to dating?
Hey! so I, (24F), just downloaded hinge about a week ago and I ended up planning a date with this one guy (29M) I matched with a few hours after making my profile. Long story short, we’ve had 3 dates in the span of maybe a week? The first two he initiated, the last I did. All of them were amazing dates, we spent the entire time laughing and getting to know each other. I thought that we had really great chemistry and the same sense of humor, to the point where I began to feel that warm safe feeling when you really like someone.. He paid for the first two and I paid for the last, and I thought we ended on a really great note. The only physical thing that we’ve done is kissed, which I’ve initiated at the end of our second date. Well, after our third he hadn’t texted me for a full day, until I sent a message the following day. When he did respond, there was hours in between the response times which is very unusual for his normal texting pattern. This has continued for the past two days, where there’s huge gaps in between text messages.
Is there a possibility that he’s trying to be hot/cold with me & play the “game” now? Is that something that guys actually do? He’s a pretty nerdy guy and he comes off as very genuine, so I wouldn’t really expect that of him. Of course, he could also just be losing interest, but after the night we had (we spent many, many hours together just talking) it’s hard for me to believe that that’s the case.
I’m a decent looking girl who goes to the gym, is advancing her professional career, has hobbies, and is pretty genuine. Not to sound full of myself but I’d like to think that I make for a pretty great partner. I got out of a long term relationship about a year ago now and I’m just starting to dip my toes into the dating pool. I not sure if there’s any “rules and regulations” that I need to be following …
Me personally, I’m not one for games. I’m all for straightforwardness and genuine connection, so really I just don’t want to be investing all of this emotional energy into someone who isn’t going to reciprocate. What do you guys think?