u/Falcon_fetti

Rude gay friend?

Ok just want to know if I’m overreacting or justifiably upset. I was in the phone with my other gay friend and we have hooked up with the same guy.

He apparently wasn’t into it, but I was, because the guy was really hot. So I said yeah “he had a great body” and he replied “well I have a great body too, but I still didn’t think he was that attractive.”

I made a self-deprecating joke and said “well my body isn’t that great, so makes sense I was more into it haha” To which he replied “yeah you don’t, so makes sense.” I was a bit taken aback and told him that was kinda crazy to say, and he said “well do you want me to be fake and tell you that you have a good body when you don’t?”

For context, I used to be super skinny and have always hated how I look, but now go to the gym and get compliments from my straight friends/family about how healthy I look. But I still have some body issues, especially with how high standards are in the gay community. So am I being overly sensitive right now? I get I kind of set him up with the self-deprecating joke, but wasn’t expecting him to co-sign it and double down.

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u/Falcon_fetti — 23 hours ago

Dumped for an ex

Damn dating is brutal out here. I’ve (26M) been seeing this guy for about 4 weeks and have had three amazing dates. We had a ton in common, laughed for hours, and I genuinely could’ve seen a future with him. Granted I know it’s only been three dates, but I had never been so excited about a guy before.

Today before our fourth date, he texted me that he was having a great time too, but his ex reached out and wanted to reconnect. He said he wanted to see where things went and see if they could make things work, and ended things with me. I get it, but still stung.

I know I shouldn’t be this upset considering it’s only been a few weeks, but it’s pretty rare for me to find a guy that I’m really into that is also into me, so definitely a bit upset. Anyone else here have experiences with someone ending things for an ex? Half venting/half just want to hear if anyone can relate and has some advice on how to feel a bit less shitty/alone about this whole thing haha

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u/Falcon_fetti — 10 days ago

Left for an ex

Damn dating is brutal out here. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 4 weeks and have had three amazing dates. We had a ton in common, laughed for hours, and I genuinely could’ve seen a future with him. Granted I know it’s only been three dates, but I had never been so excited about a guy before.

Today before our fourth date, he texted me that he was having a great time too, but his ex reached out and wanted to reconnect. He said he wanted to see where things went and see if they could make things work, and ended things with me. I get it, but still stung.

I know I shouldn’t be this upset considering it’s only been a few weeks, but it’s pretty rare for me to find a guy that I’m really into that is also into me, so definitely a bit upset. Anyone else here have experiences with someone ending things for an ex? Half ranting/half just want to hear if anyone can relate to feel a bit less shitty/alone about this whole thing haha

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u/Falcon_fetti — 10 days ago