u/Familiar-Deer1429

I'm 29 and I've struggled my whole life with nothing to show for it. I had a verbally abusive alcoholic father and a mother who kept going back to him. My voice was never taken seriously even among my siblings. I was socially awkward growing up as well so I didn't have friends till High School. I worked really hard and did well academically, went to college, and got an IT degree. I've never gotten a job in my field. I've only ever worked fast food, retail, and now I do maintenance like my father did. I struggle to pay the bills. A year ago my 8 year long relationship ended after my partner told me they did self discovery and found out they were aromantic and they didn't really experience love. They said our relationship was just a strong friendship to them. I have no issue with anyone on the LGBT spectrum and I'm Bi myself but damn does that shatter my sense of reality and self worth. I thought they were the one, the person I'd grow old with, I felt so lucky that after everything I managed to actually have something real. I moved halfway across my country 🇺🇸 for them to a place where I don't know anyone. Now I'm trapped and they are the only people I know here. It's a rural area and people keep to themselves so it's hard to meet anyone. I've struggled my whole life and thought with hard work and determination that I could actually at least love modestly. I didn't have a high bar but it seems like no matter what I do, I fail. Like my whole life is a sick joke.

I(29M) need help and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. It just feels like it's impossible to find someone who's into me. I get told I'm decent looking and that I'm funny by both friends and women I've talked to but I just can't seem to get any luck.

I got out of an 8 year long relationship a year ago and I've been trying since I managed to get over it. It was mutual and not messy so it was relatively easy, we just came to the conclusion that we weren't compatible anymore. Anyways since then I've had chats and even a date or two but I just can't seem to find someone who's interested and it's starting to make me feel unlovable. I'm socially awkward and autistic so it doesn't help with how I feel. I guess I just need guidance on how to navigate the dating scene and how to flirt properly.