How do you accept that someone can stop feeling anything for you despite everything you shared with them?
I’m 20F, and I’m curious how other women would perceive this.
I was in a relationship that felt extremely intimate and genuine. For a long time, our life was basically just us. We ate together, slept together, lived together, shared everything, and I genuinely felt like our lives had become one.
We both made mistakes. He hid things from me that I eventually found out, and I also did something that hurt him. I never cheated or crossed that line, but I knew what I had done affected him deeply.
What I struggle to understand is that he apparently lost his feelings for me because of that one thing, and no matter what happened afterwards, he couldn’t seem to get past it.
I left everything behind and moved to his city. I lived with him and his parents. I ate with him, slept beside him, lived the same daily life with him, and tried to show him through my actions how genuinely sorry I was and how much I wanted to make things right.
But none of it seemed to bring those feelings back.
And I find that incredibly difficult to understand not because I think someone owes you forgiveness or love because you tried hard enough, but because I personally cannot imagine sharing that kind of life with someone and then being able to feel absolutely nothing for them.
Especially because there was also a situation where he essentially chose something else over me, which hurt me deeply. Yet somehow I was still willing to move past that and try to rebuild things.
Now I’m left wondering whether people really can reach a point where they simply cannot feel anything anymore, even while the person is right there beside them, sharing their bed, eating with them, living under the same roof and trying desperately to repair what was broken.
How do you accept that? And does anyone else find it strange how two people can experience the exact same life together and then one person can emotionally detach from it while the other is still completely inside it?
**TL;DR:**Have you ever struggled to understand how someone could share such an intimate life with you and still be unable to regain any feelings after something went wrong, even when you genuinely tried everything to make amends?