u/Famous-Station-549

I really want five. We just had our fourth, I'm six weeks post partum and about to have *that* appointment with my OB and I'm just completely lost about what to say, what to ask for.

Hubby swears up and down he is done.

If we stick to four I will always feel like someone is missing but I'm literally drowning right now in motherhood and I feel insane for even considering a fifth in two or three years.

I have agreed with my husband that we are done because I see his point and logically I understand it but I want to be in a place mentally or contextually where five is a good idea *SO BADLY*

I'm not enthused about any of our birth control options - I think they all suck, and I am pro-life after experiencing two losses. Going on the pill or the mini pill feels like being a hypocrite but we tried NFP the last time and this is how we got #4 so hubby is not on board for continuing.

We have the seven seater already, we are house hunting for a bigger home. I'm already a SAHM and we have an amazing church and daycare community.

So I'm on cosleeping baby #4 but everytime is a bit different. Our oldest (6) is totally independent, but our 4 year old still sneaks into bed with dad most nights, and the gap between our new born and the next youngest is only 21 months so still very much a momma's girl.

Last night due to Norovirus I ended up cosleeping in a twin bed with two toddlers and the newborn who is cluster feeding - so didn't sleep at all due to anxiety. 0/10 do not recommend.

The girls room is very small - like 7x9 so I don't really think a standard queen is the right idea but what do we think about a trundle day bed that transforms into a king?

I'm looking at the IKEA hemnes specifically.