u/Famous_Economics7112

Are there stories of getting your tubes out after childbirth thats not a c-section? Based on my past births this will most likely just be another basic natural birth (if it was a csec it would probably make the decision easier lol). Obviously I can ask them to do it if it does end in c-section anyways but right now that timeline would make rhe most sense when id have the most family help around for the other kids and it likely wont be a c-section. The oldest is 10 and theyre all almsot perfectly 2 years apart cause we hit that stage around when baby turns 1 where we miss the baby stage and just want another.

My husband is also looking into getting fixed we've just not settled on which way makes more sense for our family? We have to do nfp/fam instead of birthcontrol because we've tried a bunch of different kinds and it screws too much with my mood/antidepressants (and im really hoping to get off those once hormones and everything regulates after baby is 6-12 months old) and since hes the only income its hard for him to take time off for anything. But we live in rural Canada so everything medical is free but appointments for things are hard to come by so getting fixed while im already in the hospital if they offer it makes sense?

I just read online that was an option and wanna settle in stone whether me and hubby wanna do anything permanent before we bring it up at my next appointment. The doctor was also really pushy during my last 2 pregnancies trying to convince me to get my tubes done if they had to do an emergency csec but they were like too pushy and it made it less of a conversation than it could've been, and with so many kids and I dont think my age would be an issue (im only 27). Just looking at all the options and any info or experiences would be helpful.

Are cloth diapers worth it to you?

I previously cloth diapered my 3 kids for a few months but due to a depressive episode I had to throw out all but 4 of my diapers and havent looked at them in over a year. Im considering getting back into it I still have the same 3 kids in diapers, a nonverbal autistic 6 yr old, a non verbal on waitlist to be assessed almost 4 yr old, and my passing all milestones early 1.5yr old that is starting to get to the potty training age. Im about halfway through my pregnancy and I fell back down the rabbit hole of all the diapers and even just for the toddler and the newborn would cloth diapering be worth it. I also have a really crappy washing machine but I enjoy the process of hand washing the diapers and mostly just used the machine for rinsing. Its also really hard to convince my husband it would be worth the financial cost especially since we have small babies the newborn would need her own entire stash for the first few months to be replaced by one size diapers hopefully though the toddler would be potty trained by then, and also because of how we had to get rid of the last attempt.

I at least know what id be doing this time and know what to look for when I need a break but I just dont know if I should try again or not. Sorry its probably a word jumble lol.

My husband has been on and off thinking about joining the military for years now. He almost joined when he was 18 and hes now 31 (I'm 27). We've been together for the past 7 years and have 3 kids together and I'm pregnant with number 4. He's talking about taking this year to get fully back into shape (he used to be crazy about fitness when we started dating then we had a bunch of kids) then joining the military. I just want to know realistically what life could look like? We're Canadian for reference and I know most of the posts in this group seem to be mostly American.

When we started dating it was long distance until we got pregnant with our oldest, and he did a few years in forest firefighting where hed be gone for a couple weeks then home for 2-5 days then gone again, so we at least have some experience with long distance cause I know that'll come up eventually. But I also know long distance in the military is so different too with many more unknowns than just being a couple hours away and having a guaranteed home by date unless a serious emergency happens and also less consistent communication in the military too it seems? I just want to know what to expect to some extent if possible. I also grew up moving every 1.5 to 3 years and even now we've moved 3 times during our 7 years together so I'm not really tied to any one place anyways. Im a stay at home mom too so I dont really have a job to leave behind either and even with his current job I'm the one doing everything at home anyways while he works from before the kids wake up until an hour before their bedtime.

I still know it'll be a huge change but any realistic view of what life could be like will be helpful?