u/Fantastic-Term-8085

I am 26M. My ex (the one who I thought got away) came back out of no where asking for drinks. I agreed, though thankfully I was cool headed enough to schedule this 2 weeks out.

Obviously I still care about her a lot, which is why I’m on Reddit posting about this. But after the original emotions have died off, I’ve decided that in fact she is not worth returning to.

Despite what my heart says, she reality is she left me at my lowest. She left me after I lost my job, was under tremendous stress and just starting out my business then. After she left me I went ghost, not just with her but with 90% of my circle and pretty much the rest of the world. I worked, worked and worked. I got lucky, I was blessed by the universe. Now I have a business bringing in mid-6 figure revenue and I’m clearing well more than my previous job; and all of this is with me calling the shots and me having to answer to no one.

She does not know this is who I am now. I am very private. I know that when I show up as the man I am now she will most likely want to rekindle things. I do not want that. I think she tossed away something rare and genuine and I know she’s changed how I will love in relationships moving forward. Should I go to this meeting and speak my mind? Things and hurt that I’ve buried deep inside? Or should I be virtuous and show up, because I said I would, and listen and let her get her closure? Is this type of revenge even worth it?

Hi guys, I could really use some guidance here.

My ex reached out to me randomly saying she had a terrible nightmare about me; saying she was my emergency contact and I had gotten into a bad car wreck. Basically reached out wanting to make sure I’m okay. Since I was born a little before yesterday, I know it’s BS; yet still I agreed to grab drinks with her.

I purposefully set getting drinks further out; two weekends away, one is because I will be out of town for a few days on the weekends and two; so we can think about this and let the cooler head prevail.

I’m on the fence. I’m pretty sure she’s doing this because she realized the grass was not greener on the other side. For me, I know I have feelings for her still. In the time we’ve been apart I’ve mostly stayed single minus a couple hook ups. I locked in during that time, 18 hour days working on my business for many, many months straight. I didn’t do this for her, but I did do it without her. That is where I am tripped up about.

She does not know how I am doing now; I am a private person (no socials etc.); and after our break up I disappeared off the maps so no mutual friends will pass the message either. While I’m not rich or am where I need to be; I have made significant strides towards my goal and have freed my time from the 9-5 race.

My heart still yearns for her as I have loved her like I’ve loved no other; but she left me at my lowest. She left me a month after I lost my last job, I was broke, under immense pressure to make money, and wanting to build my own business instead of finding a job. I don’t blame her for leaving when she did; I was a wild card then. But I built a good life now in the short time we’ve been apart. I genuinely did what I set out to do; my life has never been better. Apart of me knows that my life will even be better with her; but I also know it will be in the back of my head the loyalty behind it all. What do you guys think?

TLDR:
Ex gf reached out after 10 months wanting to grab drinks. She left me at my lowest but since then I’ve made great strides towards building the life I set out to build. I still love her, in the 10 months apart I never dated; only worked. But I don’t know how I feel about welcoming her back into the new life I’ve created after she left me at my lowest.

I have taken out a total of 75k from topstep, 55k from take profit, and 14k from lucid from August until now. Total spent on accounts about 65k.

Got screwed by taxes but learned my lesson. Also much better at managing accounts now so the cost basis will go down this year.

What are the stats of some other profitable traders?