u/Far-Emphasis-3128

I joined CupidFeel mostly because I was bored and wanted to see what the conversations were actually like.

The first thing I noticed was that it feels more like a place to talk than the usual swipe-and-match thing. Some conversations were boring, obviously, but a couple of people were really interesting and I ended up coming back to the same chats later.

The credit system is probably the part I'd want to understand better before spending much. I didn't mind testing it, but I can see how the costs could add up if you're chatting a lot.

I would say my experience so far has been pretty good, but there have been some good and bad points, just like with online dating.

I'd like to know if people who've used CupidFeel for a long time have actually managed to meet someone they want to keep talking to.

I (29F) found out last week completely by accident. My brother (32M) let it slip during a family dinner that he was "finally debt-free." I asked how, thinking he got a raise or something, and he got quiet. My mom jumped in and said they helped him out.

I graduated with $71k in student loans. I've been paying them down for 7 years. I've never once asked my parents for money because and I'm embarrassed to admit this I genuinely thought they didn't have it. Turns out they did. They just… didn't offer.

When I brought it up privately with my mom, she said my brother "was struggling more" and that I've always been "the independent one." She meant it as a compliment. It didn't land that way.

I'm not furious. I don't want to blow up my family. But I also can't just pretend this doesn't sting. My brother feels guilty. My dad won't engage. And I'm sitting here wondering if "you're capable" has been their justification for treating us differently my whole life.

Has anyone dealt with financial inequality like this between siblings? Did you ever bring it up directly with your parents and did it help or just make things worse?