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I’m a FTM and I feel like it’s been so hard to find moms in my community or surrounding areas to become friends with. I’m on mat leave and I regularly walk a trail that is filled with moms and I say hello every time but everyone seems to have their own “group.” (They’re already there with friends usually.)

I love my friends truly, they are fantastic and have been amazing since the birth of my son. But, it is different and there are lots of things I feel like they just don’t relate to right now and I don’t want to stop them from living their lives either! Trust me I don’t want to give up them whatsoever but sometimes hanging out with people who are on the same page is so nice.

I want to start taking my son to story times soon as he’s getting older and wake windows are getting longer, but I don’t know where else to meet people organically. Maybe when he goes to daycare I’ll meet other parents more?

I guess this a bit of a rant. I feel like there’s been such a death of third spaces and community and as a mom I do get being wary of people you don’t know because the world is so crazy, but we are so isolated. My mom was a SAHM in the 90’s and she had so many people she could turn to, friends and family. It’s just not like that anymore, and then we wonder why we’re all so burnt out!

Anyway, if you read this, thank you. Hope all of you beauties had an amazing Mother’s Day yesterday. 🩷

This is no surprise to me and I think it’s really funny tbh. It couldn’t get more quintessential MIL than that. 🫢

drop your MIL Mother’s Day horror stories here for fun, I want to hear them!

Starting this one off by saying that I’m sure this is a phase and it will pass, but it’s been a hard one.

My baby has been getting up at 3-4am every day, and not resettling back to sleep after a feed. My husband is usually out the door already by then, so I’ve been up with my baby. Now during the day he won’t even let me put him down in the bassinet for a nap, which is something he had no issues with up until now. So, I’m either constantly wearing him or holding him.

When dad gets home he wants to step in immediately, and lately that has been making my son meltdown. He cries so hard that he hyperventilates. I’m still on leave so I’m home with my baby all day while my husband works. He works long shifts so sometimes he misses things like bed and bath time. I knew this going into motherhood but sometimes I start to crack from being needed so much. And then I feel guilty for feeling frustrated when I know I’m my son’s safe place and I’ve been working hard on creating a secure attachment with him.

I used to be able to just hand him off to dad when the day was done and he won’t allow it anymore. And I can see it’s weighing on my husband. I just keep encouraging him to respond to cues, feed, etc., but I don’t know what else I can do.

I’m just feeling very tired right now and very frustrated. I know this too will pass, I’m just feeling my tank run on E.