u/Far-Tangerine3291

Hello all!!

Just had my first jab of 2.5mg of MJ this morning.

For background
In February 2024 I started on Ozempic (Wegovy wasn't a thing yet) and lost 30kgs (from 90kgs to 60kgs) in 14 weeks. I was bedridden, violently ill, no energy, couldn't eat for days at a time etc. Obviously it had it's intended effect, however it ws not done healthily.

Currently I am sitting at 69kgs and want to go back on to get back to 60kgs where I feel healthiest.

Can anyone recommend apps to track macros? I don't want it to be like last time I want to meet protein goals.
What apps are we using to track weight?
Any type of app recommendations to help me manage would be great!!

Welcome to hear any advice on this new journey on MJ

Moving in with partner of 18 months in the coming weeks, so naturally the topic of 'who pays for what has arisen'. To give context these are the main points:
- He has three kids (11F, 8M, 6M) and I have two kids (5M and 3M)
- We both have 50/50 care of our kids with no child support (okayish relationship with the other parents and just split kids costs)
- We both own homes. I will be moving into his. Mine will be rented out. The rent will cover the mortgage plus all household expenses. Will probably put away $100/fn as a type of buffer, but it will break even or close too.
- No children together and absolutely will never
- Both relatively high-income earners. He earns $210k per year and I earn about $130k per year

Moving into his home what is a fair split of expenses?

I was thinking I'll pay half of utilities and do the food shop. I'm feeling reluctant to contribute to the mortgage or bills related to the house (rates, insurances and repairs etc) as it's not my home. God forbid he dies in a few years, the house will be left to his kids.
In saying this I can appreciate my house is sitting there getting paid off by someone else.

If happy to, how do you separate your finances?

My SO and I have been together for about 18 months, and we have our kids 50/50 (the same week on and then a week off). We don't live together, but our lives are very blended. Between us we have five kids (11F, 8M, 6M, 5M and 3M). The kids all go to the same school, play sports together, and honestly they've adjusted amazingly well.

The situation I'm struggling with involves my SO's ex and how blatantly unhinged she is being. She's on her forth boyfriend in 12 months (kids have met all of them) and she's now pregnant, which is baby dad number three. The kids met him after two weeks and he moved into their home after 6 weeks. He works two hours away (a four-hour round trip each day), and he has an 18-month-old child that he sees every second weekend.

She also has a 15 year old daughter from a previous relationship (baby dad number one) who is now living full-time with her Dad. Their relationship has deteriorated significantly, and she says her Mum is selfish, doesn't support her, makes her look after her younger siblings, doesn't come to her sporting events, and generally just doesn't have a relationship with her Mum anymore.

What really upset me was that she told the younger kids about the pregnancy at four weeks and put the hard word on them not to tell anyone, specifically not me and their Dad. That lasted about two days before the 8 year old told me. He mentioned it in front of his sister and she sent absolute daggers, and immediately took him away and told him off for sharing it because mum had specifically told them not to. I stepped in and explained that this was an adult issue that should never have been placed on their shoulders in the first place. I told them that we're trusted adults, and if something is worrying him or he feels he needs to tell us something, he won't get in trouble from us. Their Dad also had conversations when he got home addressing the situation.

The kids are carrying a lot emotionally right now and my heart is broken for them.

I fully understand that what happens in her home is ultimately her business. We can't control her choices. We can't stop the pregnancy, the relationship, or any future plans they make etc.

The kids are genuinely excited about having a new sibling, and I want to support that excitement...... the problem is that my SO and I are looking at the bigger picture and feeling incredibly sad for them. Over the last year we've already watched their Mum become less involved, going from a genuinely good Mum to barely showing up. She's stopped attending many trainings, sports and school events, asks us to have the kids on 'her week', and has missed some really important milestones because her and her boyfriend have been on weekends away. She has openly said that her relationship is her priority and they are house shopping an hour away so her partner is closer to work.

I know nobody has a crystal ball, but from where we're sitting it feels like we're watching a train heading toward a wall. We worry that once the baby arrives, the older kids will become even less of a priority. We worry they'll eventually end up living with us full-time, much like the eldest daughter now lives with her dad. We would happily have them full-time but that's not in the kids best interest because they need their Mum.

I guess my question is....... how do you support the kids through something they're excited about when you're deeply worried about where it's all heading? How do you balance validating their excitement while quietly preparing yourself for what you suspect may come next?

Has anyone been in a similar situation?