u/Far-Turnip-6167

I'm a 40yo male. Live alone. I'm a data analyst specialized in social media and wondered: is there a formula that will always work on dates, like there is to videos?

Some time ago took a girl on a date, that I had met on Tinder. I dropped by her home, she got on my motorcycle. I took her to a nice pub with live music. She was hot, blue eyes, nice body, 26 yo. We sat on a 1x1 table, facing each other. We chose chicken parmesan. We talked, then in the end, while we were ready to hop on, we kissed and than I took her home. Then she stopped replying to my messages. She ghosted me. Where did I go wrong? Ok, time to rethink strategies.

Ok, now it's this second girl that I met o Tinder. I invited her to go to Domino's, which she replied "I love pizza!". She was brown skin, straight hair, 26 yo, not a beautiful face, but she was hot. We went there, had good chat, the vibes were good. And after we ate, I said that I had to go home to straighten the bike's chain before taking her home, which was true(she lived far from me), the chain had indeed slipped once. We went to my garage (it's away from my apartment). Fixed what I had to. We went upstairs. Got in. Sex. Took her home in the middle of the night.

Some time later I saw a whatsapp update from this other girl that I had met on tinder but I ghosted her (never knew her in person). I replied: Wow, you're beautiful. This one was older, but kind of cute. Pale skin, blue eyes, 38yo. She is funny, like a man's personality on a woman's body, the only woman of three childs, that grew up playing with boys. I invited her to go out. Well, Domino's worked, maybe I should try again? Picked her home with my motorcycle and went to Domino's. She is very talkative. I felt a buddy's vibe, like she could be a friend, though I wanted to take her under my sheets. After the pizza, I invited her to eat ice-cream. After the ice cream, I asked if she had to be at home early, which she replied "no". I said that I wanted to drink some alcohol, but I couldn't do that there, because I was driving. We hopped on, stopped by a licor store, bought some beers, took her to my place. Sex. Took her home in the middle of the night.

And then there was this other girl that I met on facebook dating. 22yo, chubelicious, new in town. I asked her out. We went to Domino's and then to that same exact ice-cream parlor then the other girl. When it was 10pm, I asked if she had to be home early, which she replied: "Hey, I'm 22yo, I'm no kid". I asked if she wanted to know the town. We hopped on my bike and we went to my apartment. Sex. Took her home in the middle of the night.

So, basically the technique consists in:

✔️Having a vehicle;

✔️ Having a beautiful, empty, neat and clean apartment (I think this is the most difficult part, sometimes it takes a whole day to clean my place, before inviting someone); And I spent a lot on furniture. My bed is big and fluffy, the sheets smell like perfume.

✔️ Avoiding talking too much, because that could lead to debates;

✔️Inviting a girl to go to Domino's, strategically close to my place.

✔️Ask for mixed pizza (chose together);

✔️ Sit by her side;

✔️ Then take her to a nice ice-cream parlor, that is near Domino's;

✔️ Around 10pm, ask her if she needs to be home early (she will understand the message, it's like asking if they want to fuck, but in a non-direct manner). If they reply "no", that means they want the night to be longer. If she says "yes, take me home", you know she didn't like you. Rejection without embarassement. Or I come with an excuse to get her home, never being direct, like (hey, wanna fuck? - I think they would feel umconfortable). Make things look natural and really not planned. "I have to fix my bike", "I wanna drink beer but I can't in the streets.

Things that may or not be relevant:

✔️ I use Dior's Sauvage Parfum;

✔️ I'm a very clean person;

✔️ I'm always shaved;

✔️ My teeth are beautiful;

✔️ I'm in good shape.

But I must say again, the most important part is the apartment/house. It must be pleasant to the senses (look good, smell good). I don't know what happens to the female brain, but women, when alone with men, it's like something clicks. "Well, I'm a female, I'm alone with a male, so nature is calling". Really, I've fucked all the girls that were alone with me in my place. Once, the girl that worked in an office across the street was cold. I invited her to get some sunlight. We fucked. The power of the apartment is overwhelming. Women also tend to be more prone to do stuff if nobody is watching, even kissing. "yeah, this guy may be not very hot, but you know what? I'm here and nobody's going to know 🤷🏼‍♀️ = sex".

If some tries this and it works, I'd like to see your feedbacks.

I never took very seriously what my mother used to tell me, about going to her past and wandering around there. I had no idea that her brain was so different than mine, as aphantasia has been discovered not long ago. But now I understand how amazing her skills are. She can write books really fast. She says she watches the stories like movies in her head, and writes what the characters are doing. She doesn't control what the characters do, she just observes and writes it down. She never knows where the story is going because she never knows what the characters will do, it's a mistery. She hasn't studied literature, her writing is pure magic. She can close her eyes and go back to her childhood and see everything with high details. She can describe all the objects that were inside the house she lived in 1965. She can walk around the house in complete dark, as she has everything inside her head. I don't know if her deceased father had the same condition, but I know he had an amazing memory. He could remember all kinds of events with details. He also liked writing math books to keep his memory in shape.
Omg, what I have missed! My father spoiled my genetics with his shitty genes. I love writing, but I have difficulties to write dialogues, because without visualization, they sound unatural. I love drawing, but without visualization, I never get better at it. I wonder if even my guitar playing is bad because of aphantasia, as I can't imagine the notes in the guitar fret. Damn it, I feel like I have a deficiency.

Ok, so another day I decided to make a test: I joined some images on a single jpeg file and stared at them for only a few seconds. Then, on the other day, I tried to draw one of the images that I remembered. I had memorized the concept (planet earth turned to left, putting toy cars inside a box).

I knew I was going to draw it more or less right (as I knew the concept), but for my surprise, there are some things in the drawing that I got too right, even though I could really not see the image in my mind.

For example, the position of hands (I got more of less right).
The blue and yellow car. How could I remember the format of those tiny cars? The position is not very wrong also.
The position of the legs and feet;
The smile and dot eyes.
The african and american continents position.

I drawed everything thinking of the concepts, not the real image, so wtf. I hadn't included the small details in the concept.

It looks like my mind had stored the image somehow, not only the concept, it looks like there is indeed a mind's eye (not only a conceptual memory), I just cannot access it in the normal state of conciousness. This test somehow gave me some hope. And I went better than a person that doesn't have aphantasia (a friend also made the test).

Anyone has tried something similar?

https://preview.redd.it/euoayn6vhw4h1.jpg?width=656&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0a9334f190de78dafa9146e1c2be90925bab100d

I edited this image on photoshop. This is how I can imagine and see an apple behind my eyelids( not background imagery or background conceptual visual imagination) for some seconds if I try really hard. Anyone can relate?