Basically the caption? without actually saying it bc i wouldn’t want to do that until he’s officially gone, how can I hint or show that I like him / am interested. we’ve become buds i would say working here but sometimes it’s hard to tell if there’s flirty vibes or not. want to try to plant a seed so he has an inclining about where i stand before he leaves
I have a crush on one of my coworkers. we are basically the same age / level and worked super super closely on this one project that just ended. through this project we honestly became pretty good friends and we have a reputation on our team for being super close. While i do think we have fun friendly vibes, sometimes i can’t tell if maybe he also is interested. since this project has ended and we have less of a forced reason to communicate, and i have noticed he will like randomly text me things to my personal phone. an example is just yesterday being like “[MY NAME] what was the name of that market that sells that one fruit.” i find it so interesting when guys purposely say you’re name in convo but maybe it’s not that serious, or this one recipe we talked about and out of the blue like weeks later he just goes “failed making it.” like he sends this random updates but then doesn’t really make convo when i respond and i can’t tell if he’s just kinda just being friendly and random and texting random updates or if it’s just him trying to stay in touch sorta? idk im quite confused and don’t really have many guy friends to compare this to
TL;Dr Can’t tell if my coworker is just being friendly or maybe showing interest?
how do i tell if a guy that i’m friends with at work is interested in me or just has a flirty personality?
All of my friends at work think he likes me from how often he comes to talk to me, some of the messages he sends, how close to me he stands when he comes to my seat. I think we have a really good vibe where we get along well on our project and we have lots of common interests outside of work, however i can’t tell from his actions if he may see me as more than a friend / coworker. He has made jokes like “this is why you’re my best friend at the firm” before so that feels pretty friend zoning, but then my friends at work are like sometimes guys do that and he wouldn’t make a full move while he still works here (he leaves in a few weeks).
For everyone that will say if likes you he will ask you out if, i guess im wondering some of the other signs to know if maybe he sees me as more than a friend.
Tl:Dr Coworker is hard to read, how can you tell if someone is interested vs they just have a flirty personality
how do i tell if a guy that i’m friends with at work is interested in me or just has a flirty personality?
All of my friends at work think he likes me from how often he comes to talk to me, some of the messages he sends, how close to me he stands when he comes to my seat. I think we have a really good vibe where we get along well on our project and we have lots of common interests outside of work, however i can’t tell from his actions if he may see me as more than a friend / coworker. He has made jokes like “this is why you’re my best friend at the firm” before so that feels pretty friend zoning, but then my friends at work are like sometimes guys do that and he wouldn’t make a full move while he still works here (he leaves in a few weeks).
For everyone that will say if likes you he will ask you out if, i guess im wondering some of the other signs to know if maybe he sees me as more than a friend.
Tl:Dr Coworker is hard to read, how can you tell if someone is interested vs they just have a flirty personality
what does it mean if a guy sends like a short text abt something (for example, a pic of this food we both like), u answer and then he just has a short response and doesn’t really continue the convo? like he initiated the convo/text but is dry and doesn’t make an effort to continue the convo? I guess i just shouldn’t read into it but kinda confused what he’s hoping to accomplish
Tl;Dr he reaches out out of the blue but then doesn’t actually make conversation. Unsure intention and reason for messaging at all if not planning to make conversation
Editing post to clarify he leaves the company in 3 weeks
So there’s a guy at work that I’ve developed feelings for and I genuinely cannot figure out what he’s doing.
Background: We worked closely together on a project for a few months and developed a really close dynamic. Lots of texting, inside jokes, and good vibes. Some highlights:
• good banter abt random things throughout the work day
• On a work trip for this project he asked me to go on walks, invited me to dinner with his friends, asked to go on a run together, asked to grab food together, asked me to keep him company while he was working, basically seemingly wanting to spend all non-work time together, but i will say the time we did spend together did feel pretty platonic vibes other than the eye contact, and occasional shoulder / hand grazes
• When I went on PTO he texted me “the office will suck without you </3”
• When he went on PTO a while ago he brought me back a little gift
• Called me his “best friend” at work and when I said “i’m honored” he said “the honor is all mine” (aware this sounds hella platonic)
• Will send me random things on our personal phones like a pic of this food we both like
• Has sent me reels on insta but has never requested to follow me (makes me wonder if he has a gf but once he said to me like “i just need to find a girl in [city we live in now] and then I wanna move back home” which i feel like u don’t say if u have a gf?)
• Is noticeably more reserved in person / in the office than over text or phone
• Will sometimes call me abt work but quickly drift into random other conversation
Since our work project has ended, he has started reaching out with these like low stakes openers, I respond warmly, then he goes dry or doesn’t continue convo. Every time there’s a natural opening for him to make something concrete happen he does this slight sidestep: • “Let me know how it goes” when I mentioned a restaurant I wanted to try • “Tell them I sent you” instead of suggesting we go together to this restaurant • I ask what’s on the menu at a place and he responds with “just let me know when you go”, just not answering the question
I think he generally has a flirty personality, which i am trying to internalize, but at the same time like what is he doing? Is he interested and just scared bc we work together, or is he someone who enjoys the attention without any intention of acting on it? I really can’t tell bc I feel like some of this is not normal for coworkers, but when given the opportunity he never acts. ig the work trip initiating from him could’ve just been bc it was mainly the two of us there idk, but i’m very confused and bc i like him have had a hard time detaching
Tl;Dr Coworker seems a bit flirty for just someone I work with, but hasn’t really made a move and I can’t tell if he’s interested or just being friendly or maybe just has a flirty personality
There's a guy at work I've developed feelings for. We worked closely together for a few months and had really good vibes, some texting on personal phones abt random things, lots of inside jokes, and when we were on a work trip together he asked to grab dinner, go on walks, etc. and idk felt like we had a good vibe going, granted the actually conversations all feel pretty friendly.
Since our project has ended, we dont really have a formal reason to talk as much. ive noticed since though this like weird pattern of like random texts with no real purpose (yesterday he sent me a photo of food with zero context not message nothing just a picture), I respond warmly / ask a question, he goes quiet. Repeat. All on our personal phones.
We still have a few calls a week for work so it's not completely over but the dynamic has definitely shifted.
I can't tell if he's interested and just bad at it, or if he just enjoys the attention and I'm reading into it, or if this is just friendly idk its all quite weird and im not quite sure what to make of it.
TL;DR: Coworker texts me random things with no real purpose, I respond warmly and he doesnt answer. Thought we had a vibe before, and can't tell what is happening now