u/Far_Wrongdoer_5260

I’m 24 F and working. My boyfriend is 30 M and has been unemployed since December 2025, but we’ve been hiding it from friends but later on told his family and he has a lot of debt now from them.

I’ve changed in the relationship and stopped initiating intimacy because I’m under a lot of stress. He encouraged me to move into an expensive apartment near work even though I said I couldn’t afford it because he says he will help but after I signed he says he will help me until I got another job (I don’t want another job because I’m still stressing out in my current job). I ended up paying most of it, and later found out he was unemployed. My rent took 70–80% of my income, and I wasn’t able to save much during my first year working. I opened up him about this and he said its unfair that its his fault, but I’m young and what he did is actually not clear, I’m partly at fault too.

I’m also worried about my job, trying to upskill, dealing with family stress, and financial pressure. Meanwhile, he keeps pushing for intimacy.

He doesn’t want to upskill, study further, or adjust his career path despite struggling to find work (his degree is far diff from what his current role), he managed to climb the ladder. He also looks down on jobs like VA work. He is really keen on finding work for 3 mos but lately he’s been down and all he do is play games and sleep and occasional applying. I understand the job market now but cmon (he got accepted but doesnt want to pursue due to his many freaking reason)

There were trust issues too: he hid his religion, which later led to pressure for me to convert, and I’m unsure if he was fully honest about the timing of his breakup with his ex.

He pays 90% of our date before but now gone to me 60-70 even though I don’t have savings. He still wanna treat me but I dont want to because it feels wrong cuz he unemployed.

He seems kinder now, but I’m wondering if it’s because he wants me to stay. Before, he could easily let me go and I was the one begging.

I’m not sure what to do.

Hi guys, for context I have a really toxic family that really pushed me to the edge. Now, since I’m the eldest they want me to take over the business and my sibling can decide whatever they want.

I have my own dreams. I hae a business degree but that family business traumatized me a lot.

The business earns like a entry level salary of person living in the city but if there is no lost its around mid level.

The business has a lot of debts in which the business will not earn for the next 5-7 years accdg to my computation just to pay the debt.

They want me to have my job + manage this but no matter how many times i say i dont want it they keep pushing me.

In your opinion, would you take this kind of offer?