u/Fearless-Cloud-4321

Hi everyone!
I’m working at a lodge in Alaska as a breakfast chef. That involves work at 4 am usually until 2pm. The room I’m staying at is above the kitchen and the ventilation hood is extremely loud to the point where it shakes my room. Then also other kitchen crew members love their music loud. I know I can do nothing about the hood activity (and I’m not intending to) but I’ve been kindly asking them to lower the music volume between like 3 pm and 6 pm when I’m getting some sleep. (Just so it doesn’t get through my earplugs) I have to do that because I’m kept up by the noise until around 10:30pm- it’s dinner service so I can’t get to sleep early enough to get adequate rest before I have to get up again around 3:40 am. Additionally, perhaps worth noting, I have autism and too much noise gives me physical symptoms like cramps, bowel dysregulation and throwing up, not to mention nervous system havoc.
Now, it’s my 3rd week here, and in the beginning coworkers seemed to appreciate my company, smiling, saying hi, socialising with me etc. Music was compromised on, and it was alright to me. But then I started getting a vibe that I’m being talked about behind my back (told myself to quit being paranoid) and then people started ignoring me when I say hi, turning away when I speak to them etc. Today is my day off and apparently I should be fine with extra loud music since yesterday (didn’t get rest after my shift) just because it’s my day off today, even though I still got woken up at 5 am with my room shaking from the goddamn hood. I understand I can’t do anything about the hood because it’s needed when cooking is happening. I went downstairs at 6ish just to ask what time do they expect the hood to be off- so I can go somewhere else and spend time in a quiet place (I do have places on the property I can go to, like a staff kitchen in another building, a beach when it’s not raining etc). I made sure to ask nicely and made sure they know I am NOT asking to turn it off, but rather just asking for information. They said 8 or 9 am, so I put a jacket on, took my mug for some tea and a book and went to chill in the other kitchen. There I just napped in the chair and enjoyed the peace and quiet. I also texted the property caretaker to say that I REALLY need to stay somewhere else because otherwise I won’t be able to continue working here. (Worth noting that I am their THIRD breakfast chef THIS SEASON!!) I knew the owner is really stressed out (we’re hosting a biggish, fussy group right now) and he can be a bit hard to communicate with. Owner also told me earlier (in my first week) that there isn’t a place for me to move to. Then when it was past 8, I went to my room to change out of PJs and go downstairs to make myself a cup of coffee. I noticed music coming from downstairs was really excessively loud. I said to myself again, great they are enjoying themselves and I don’t need to be paranoid, but when I went downstairs, everyone apart from one dishwasher/ waitress and the girl that usually works part time mornings with me (and she’s very mellow) just LEFT the room. Then owner’s wife waltzed in and yelled at me! I mean literally yelled at me. She (very angrily) conveyed the following message: hood needs to be on when cooking and I should try another room next to mine if I have a problem with that. I remarked that she seems angry, and tried to clarify that I only asked a question about when the hoods gonna be on and off, but she didn’t let me finish even 3 words of my sentence, instead yelling what she said earlier, once again. I once again remarked (calmly, making eye contact etc) that she seems angry, and she replied (10% less mad maybe) that her husband had to get up at 3 to make breakfast and then take guests on fishing trip, so yeah it is a shitty day. Then she stormed off. After she was out, the dishwasher turned towards me and both our jaws were on the ground for like a minute. After we were done being flabbergasted, she said to me that both the owner and the dinner chef who were covering for me on day off, had an angry fit in the morning and bitched about me- specifically about what, I don’t know- for taking a day off as scheduled? Why wasnt I asked to change my day off- I would’ve heard them out and just worked the day and took another day off instead! Then dinner chef and another waitress were again not responding when spoken to and totally rude. When I went upstairs, music was BLASTING for another few hours. So much for my day off, my hands are shaking and my brain is mush.
Thank God there are some kind, safe people here (the waitress/ dishwasher, two girls at reception, the caretaker) because I would lose my last marble. I went to chat with reception and they heard me out and understood me. Dishwasher and I shared some remarks too. Caretaker said we will find a solution= find a place where I can stay where I can get some rest. So I have hope.
Thanks for reading this, it’s my first time venting on Reddit, I’m open to hear your guys’s experiences and whatever else you have to say about this situation! :)

Hi everyone!
I’m working at a lodge in Alaska as a breakfast chef. That involves work at 4 am usually until 2pm. The room I’m staying at is above the kitchen and the ventilation hood is extremely loud to the point where it shakes my room. Then also other kitchen crew members love their music loud. I know I can do nothing about the hood activity (and I’m not intending to) but I’ve been kindly asking them to lower the music volume between like 3 pm and 6 pm when I’m getting some sleep. (Just so it doesn’t get through my earplugs) I have to do that because I’m kept up by the noise until around 10:30pm- it’s dinner service so I can’t get to sleep early enough to get adequate rest before I have to get up again around 3:40 am. Additionally, perhaps worth noting, I have autism and too much noise gives me physical symptoms like cramps, bowel dysregulation and throwing up, not to mention nervous system havoc.
Now, it’s my 3rd week here, and in the beginning coworkers seemed to appreciate my company, smiling, saying hi, socialising with me etc. Music was compromised on, and it was alright to me. But then I started getting a vibe that I’m being talked about behind my back (told myself to quit being paranoid) and then people started ignoring me when I say hi, turning away when I speak to them etc. Today is my day off and apparently I should be fine with extra loud music since yesterday (didn’t get rest after my shift) just because it’s my day off today, even though I still got woken up at 5 am with my room shaking from the goddamn hood. I understand I can’t do anything about the hood because it’s needed when cooking is happening. I went downstairs at 6ish just to ask what time do they expect the hood to be off- so I can go somewhere else and spend time in a quiet place (I do have places on the property I can go to, like a staff kitchen in another building, a beach when it’s not raining etc). I made sure to ask nicely and made sure they know I am NOT asking to turn it off, but rather just asking for information. They said 8 or 9 am, so I put a jacket on, took my mug for some tea and a book and went to chill in the other kitchen. There I just napped in the chair and enjoyed the peace and quiet. I also texted the property caretaker to say that I REALLY need to stay somewhere else because otherwise I won’t be able to continue working here. (Worth noting that I am their THIRD breakfast chef THIS SEASON!!) I knew the owner is really stressed out (we’re hosting a biggish, fussy group right now) and he can be a bit hard to communicate with. Owner also told me earlier (in my first week) that there isn’t a place for me to move to. Then when it was past 8, I went to my room to change out of PJs and go downstairs to make myself a cup of coffee. I noticed music coming from downstairs was really excessively loud. I said to myself again, great they are enjoying themselves and I don’t need to be paranoid, but when I went downstairs, everyone apart from one dishwasher/ waitress and the girl that usually works part time mornings with me (and she’s very mellow) just LEFT the room. Then owner’s wife waltzed in and yelled at me! I mean literally yelled at me. She (very angrily) conveyed the following message: hood needs to be on when cooking and I should try another room next to mine if I have a problem with that. I remarked that she seems angry, and tried to clarify that I only asked a question about when the hoods gonna be on and off, but she didn’t let me finish even 3 words of my sentence, instead yelling what she said earlier, once again. I once again remarked (calmly, making eye contact etc) that she seems angry, and she replied (10% less mad maybe) that her husband had to get up at 3 to make breakfast and then take guests on fishing trip, so yeah it is a shitty day. Then she stormed off. After she was out, the dishwasher turned towards me and both our jaws were on the ground for like a minute. After we were done being flabbergasted, she said to me that both the owner and the dinner chef who were covering for me on day off, had an angry fit in the morning and bitched about me- specifically about what, I don’t know- for taking a day off as scheduled? Why wasnt I asked to change my day off- I would’ve heard them out and just worked the day and took another day off instead! Then dinner chef and another waitress were again not responding when spoken to and totally rude. When I went upstairs, music was BLASTING for another few hours. So much for my day off, my hands are shaking and my brain is mush.
Thank God there are some kind, safe people here (the waitress/ dishwasher, two girls at reception, the caretaker) because I would lose my last marble. I went to chat with reception and they heard me out and understood me. Dishwasher and I shared some remarks too. Caretaker said we will find a solution= find a place where I can stay where I can get some rest. So I have hope.
Thanks for reading this, it’s my first time venting on Reddit, I’m open to hear your guys’s experiences and whatever else you have to say about this situation! :)