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My boyfriend (22M) and I (23F) have been on and off for 5 years.

For months, he’s been asking me to come hang out with his friends. I’ve always declined because he told me beforehand that they “have no filter” and can be rude. Well, on July 4th, I finally agreed to go.

Most of these people are 35+ years old.

Within the first 5 minutes of being there, one of them looked at me and made a comment about my nose, saying it’s hard to look at me. Later, one of their 12-year-old daughters threw a plastic ball at the back of my head. Nobody really addressed it.

The night kept getting weirder. One of the women repeatedly told me that my boyfriend deserves better, that he should leave me, and that she could teach me how to satisfy him better. She kept making comments all night.

Then toward the end of the night, we were all sitting in a hot tub and my boyfriend started telling everyone personal details about our relationship and sex life. He told them I never give him oral, that we hadn’t had sex in two weeks, and that I don’t like when he takes care of himself sexually.

For context, I had simply wanted a break because he’s much more sexual than I am.

The thing that’s bothering me most isn’t even what they said. It’s that I defended my boyfriend when they made comments about him, but he never defended me once. Not when they insulted my appearance. Not when they talked down to me. Not when they were making comments about our relationship.

When I brought it up afterward, he basically said that I need to learn to stand my ground myself and that he doesn’t see a problem with what happened.

The issue is that I’m not a confrontational person at all, and he knows that. He knew exactly what kind of environment he was bringing me into. I was completely out of my element.

I’ve been crying and replaying the entire night in my head ever since.

I can’t figure out what I’m actually upset about:

Am I upset because I felt humiliated, disrespected, and unsupported by my boyfriend?

Am I upset because of the type of people he chooses to surround himself with?

Or am I upset because now I know I’ll never want to be around his friends again, which creates a whole new issue in our relationship?

I genuinely feel weird and unsettled by the whole thing and can’t seem to shake it.

Am I overreacting, or would you be hurt by this too?

My boyfriend (22M) and I (23F) have been together for 5 years and live together. He’s a plumber but recently started talking seriously about becoming a streamer.

I want to support his goals, but I’m worried about how streaming could affect our relationship. The idea of strangers constantly watching him, messaging him, and becoming invested in his life makes me uncomfortable. I’m also concerned about the time commitment and whether it could impact the quality time we spend together.

For people who have dated streamers or content creators, what boundaries or expectations helped your relationship stay healthy while they built an online audience?