u/Feisty-Temporary3562

Hello - am autistic and diagnosed with persistent depressive disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder. I also likely have sleep-induced hypermobility epilepsy. I am waiting on a detailed sleep study. My wife is neurotypical.

I am also a new father to a 13-day-old son.

Before he was born, my wife and I had several conversations about becoming parents. It's been something we both have wanted for a long time. And these diagnoses came later in our marriage. So, we decided that she would be the primary parent and what that meant. I would basically take care of much of the logistics and home needs and help where I could with our son. My wife would focus on our son and her recovery.

Fast-forward to today, and my wife is CRUSHING it. As an example, today, I woke up with serious morning depression like I do everyday. I was able to soothe our son and lie in bed. Meanwhile, my wife showered, made breakfast, took him back, and put him down for a nap while putting together a collage for our son's photo album.

She is basically Michael Jordan, and I am barely Scotty Pippin. Paul Simon and Art Garfunkel. Whatever comparison you wish. And I am struggling with this. The thing is, we basically talked about this situation. We knew this was a distinct possibility, but I had been hoping for something different.

Has anyone ever dealt with something like this? How do your handle it? How do you feel like you let go of any shame or guilt?

Hello everyone! I know I am not a working mom, but I am looking for some genuine advice and guidance from working moms.

My wife and I of 10 years are having our first child in a week. I have night seizures and my doctor has specifically said I can't have disrupted sleep. If I do, it increases my risk of having serious Grand Mals seizures - i.e. what you see on t.v. I also have severe PTSD and Depression which means I take a lot of meds that make me sleepy and tough to wake up in the morning. Finally I am autistic and I recharge by having time to myself. I also have sound sensitivities.

My anxiety and depression has been made so much worse by fearing that I will be a PoS father and partner to my wife.

From other working Moms, what would you want to see if I were your partner? How could I help to be the best co-parent? Here is my current list with my saint of a wife. My wife will go back to work as a school teacher in August when our son would be about 3 months old:

- I do all shopping, cooking, meal planning and unloading.

- I walk and feed the dog and make sure she gets exercise.

- I do the trash, including putting liners on.

- I do the laundry and sorting and putting away for baby when he gets here.

- I take care of my own meds and doctor's appointments.

- I take the train so she has the car.

- I work a job that alone puts us in upper middle class.