u/Feisty_Development22

I was approved for the Venture X card but they stated they needed to verify my identity so I would need to upload the front and back of my ID to their portal. Easy enough. Did just as they asked waited for about 3 weeks and heard nothing. Called the number on the letter the rep told me half of the back of my ID was missing to reupload. I did. I made sure that both the front and back were fully visible. Waited again for a month before receiving another letter saying they had to deny me because they couldn’t verify my identity. What can I or should I do? Should I just wait 6 months and try again or call the number back and see if there is anything they can do to verify me?

My son who has moderate to severe autism, ADHD and IED (intermittent explosive disorder) got sent him from school for behavior again so I had to take him with me to Walmart to grab some things for dinner. I usually don’t take him to stores with me as public places, lots of people, and noises are huge triggers for him. We were in the store and I’m rushing to get everything as I know I only have a limited amount of time before his meltdowns start. They were particularly busy for some reason and he started to have a meltdown almost as soon as we walk in, (he was already having rough day hence him needing to picked up from school.) During his melt down the EMPLOYEE looks at me and says “you need to bust that kid’s ass, that’s why he acts like a little brat” I was beyond furious and wanted to smack that lady right in the face. I said “excuse me ma’am but he is autistic and that isn’t going to help in this situation maybe you should mind your own business.” She then says “yeah I’m sure. There seems to be a whole lot of “autistic” kids these days. When it’s really just a bunch of lazy parents that refuse to make their kids mind”. Guys I’m so beyond sad and frustrated and mad I didn’t know what to say or do so just I grabbed my kid and walked out to my car and sobbed. I’m overwhelmed, I’m hurt, I’m mad. I don’t know what to say or do. I’m already flustered because I can’t even go into a store and just grab what I need and go like a normal person. I have to do all this extra planning but then on top of having to deal with my son and his melt down, now I have to be judged by employees when strangers already look at me funny. My son was diagnosed at 2 and he is now 8 so I’m used to it but idk sometimes I just don’t know how I can handle it or keep going. I wonder why this has to be my life. Why does my son have to have this. I love my son and woudknt change him for anything and I might just be in my feelings. I just need to get this out but nobody understands how hard it is to be a parent of a special needs person and then to be talked to and shamed like that is just unreal. Anyways sorry for the rant I’m new here I just needed to get this off my chest. I want to report her to corporate and to her manager but I didn’t get her name and I’m too upset/ mortified to walk back in there. Should I give myself time to calm down and then go back in? Help me. What would you do?

(Sorry about all the grammar mistakes and hope this comes off how I intend it to I’m just so flustered I can’t think straight)

For context I am being told I need to have surgery to fix nerve entrapment that happened from my shoulder injury. From what I am reading surgery has made injuries worse for people on workers comp. What is everyone’s experience? Do you feel like surgery made your symptoms worse? Is there anyone that was healed with out surgery? I’m not opposed to surgery completely as I’ve had surgeries in the past and feel they can be beneficial. I am just worried that workers comp specific injuries/surgies are scary to me as the quality of care doesn’t seem to be the same and there is a theme of wc injuries becoming worse and people regretting surgery in the end. What is your personal take? Also, I don’t care if refusing surgery messes up my workers comp claim as I would rather have a functional arm with no benefits than a messed up limb with benefits.