u/Feisty_Philosophy557

A few days ago my partner ended things with me and blocked me. I do not blame them, for doing so, however within these few days, i found a hidden account talking down on me for an entire month of us still being together also claiming to be single, while they told me they loved me wanted to come visit me. The type of stomach dropping i felt when i found this and read everything, was genuinely so gut wrenching. I’d asked them multiple times if they weren’t happy anymore and they said they were and i kept asking for reassurance of us being okay, they claimed that we were (deep down i had a feeling it was coming to a stopping point due to how they were acting, and responding, just felt checked out) i did have major fault in the relationship that i admit to. Am i Wrong for feeling this way? they went online and talked about our “entire relationship” less than a day to post.

(there is a lot more to this story, please keep in mind there is two different types of story and two different perspectives, i do not claim to be a saint in this story in fact i take full responsibility for how everything went down)

A few days ago my partner ended things with me and blocked me. I do not blame them, for doing so, however within these few days, i found a hidden account talking down on me for an entire month of us still being together also claiming to be single, while they told me they loved me wanted to come visit me. The type of stomach dropping i felt when i found this and read everything, was genuinely so gut wrenching. I’d asked them multiple times if they weren’t happy anymore and they said they were and i kept asking for reassurance of us being okay, they claimed that we were (deep down i had a feeling it was coming to a stopping point due to how they were acting, and responding, just felt checked out) i did have major fault in the relationship that i admit to. Am i Wrong for feeling this way? they went online and talked about our “entire relationship” less than a day to post.

(there is a lot more to this story, please keep in mind there is two different types of story and two different perspectives, i do not claim to be a saint in this story in fact i take full responsibility for how everything went down)

I was broken up with by a girl i met over the winter break. This is going to be long and I will admit to my fault that i’ve done.

I met this girl on tinder back in 2024 December, she was in TX for the summer I thought she was beautiful. Mind you i lived in Dallas while she stayed in Waco, i ended up driving 1hr and 45mins to go on this first date (crazy i know) and it was great she looked even better in person she got me a bouquet (first time someone gave me flowers) and i was genuinely shocked. Anyways we had an amazing date and wanted to see her again, we met again in New years for a second date. Forgot to mention she lived with her ex that dated for 2yrs almost 3. Anyways when she told me that i asked her if they were over and how come they still lived together well she clearly that up and not sure if it was true or not but i believed her. Our second date was amazing as well, actually we slept together, i should’ve lowkey seen that as a first flag, because who does that on the second date ?

Anyways fast forward i ended up asking her out in Jan 2025 because her sister mentioned that i should since she wanted to and i did it was great. She left back to CO for college to finish up the year. We did long distance for 4 months and she moved in with me. Now I offered her a place because she graduated as a writer and i thought she would have a better chance at getting a job in Dallas than wack since it’s more of the country side. We lived together for 9months. Now within that time, we had a lot of problems, reason being is that her dog was peeing everywhere, couch, bed, my clothes, floor (which i slipped on butt naked), tore up his beds, and was upsetting when i would tell her if she could have no dogs on the couch or bed (due to my allergies that aren’t super bad but i do get rashes) now since its hard to get a job now a days, she technically didn’t work for 9months (she did get jobs but she would quite them a week later because she didn’t like them) so i was a bit stress because i was paying all the bills, all groceries, all things she wanted, brought her furniture. Now ideally if im the working and she’s not, it would be nice if she cleaned up around the house or cook, or clean up dog piss or shit. But she didn’t i’d come home after a long day and the house spelt like dog, piss, shit, dishes still in the sink for last dinner, clothes on the floor, laundry still in the washer or dryer after being there for days everything. I had expressed many times that i felt that i was doing everything and would like help with chores. However it never really changed she did for a month or two and went back to how it was not doing anything. I started getting stressed about money since i was spending it all on her, stressed about work, having to come home to a dirty house, and her dog or my dogs doing destructive things during her care. I was sick of it, now this is the part where i shouldn’t have done this, i would slam a door or use to punch the wall. (I use to box and i would take out my frustration that way but i don’t have a backyard anymore) now it’s not an excuse of my actions to do that.

She told me it scared her and i apologized and stopped doing it. Now im times like this i would stay silent and just think to myself like why isnt she helping around, it feels like she’s using me, and etc. She would view it as silent treatment, i would apologize for it which wasn’t my intention of doing, something i need to think and just be silent because i don’t want to say the wrong thing and have another fight about the same thing that she swears on doing more often. It was like that for 9months, i told her i wasn’t happy anymore but i still stayed and tried to work things out, i tried to break up with her multiple times because of the way i was feeling i was starting to grow resentment. But she begged me not to stay id get guilt tripped for feeling upset of her not doing anything to help out, i was wrong for being angry. Anyways in Feb 9th,2025 she broke up with me and moved out the next day Feb 10th fully packed apartment and out of the house in another state (back to CO) while i was at work less than 24hrs she left like nothing.
I understood her actions because i was being upset for frequently because of how i was playing house and still supporting her. She moves and i begged for her to come back and fix things, i don’t know why i did that since she was able to just call it quits so quickly (this wasn’t the first time she did this) now for the next 2 months im trying to fix the relationship and invited her to a work trip i was going to for a month and she came. I paid for the ticket, and the whole trip while she was there, now ofc my job paid everything back, but what would upset me is that she never once offered to take me out or pay for anything. I guess that’s my fault for offering the comfort of i pay for everything don’t worry. Also mind you i would send her money during our whole relationship.

During this trip we were suppose to start off clean, however i was sad because she never once truly apologized for leaving in less than 24hrs and completely ignoring me and belittling my feelings. So i would bring it up like her im still hurt about this, she gave me no reassurance, no empathy, no im sorry. She said “i had my reason for leaving” and would basically say i had to get over it. I found messages of her and her sister and best friend talking about me in a bad light, her best friend saying i should get deported and i was chopped and i wasn’t good for her. While hers sister just calls me names, i got upset because although we weren’t tg why couldn’t she defend me ? instead she’d agreed with them and yet she wanted to work things out with me? Not only that we met a gay couple and became friends and i stopped liking them due to the fact that they would call me ugly, fat, and stupid.

My own ex would laugh at their jokes and make fun of me as well. So i tried ending things twice, once for the bullying and second for her saying that she would defend me but didn’t actually. After that we departed she went back home as of i and we were doing long distance. It wasn’t any better we were still having fights and going back and forth.

She broke up with me this Friday 5th, 2026 through text and blocked me on every single thing. I just found out yesterday that she had an alt account on social media talking shit about me, saying she was single, posting about our relationship online after a day of breaking up. Calling me abuser, narcissistic, manipulative, gaslighting, liar, whatever you can think of and spreading lies about many situations. The thing that bothers me the most is that she had been dragging me along for an entire month, while she was online saying she was single looking for other ppl to hook up with and what not (she did reposts about it as well) and had the audacity to say on the last message she loves me and post about our relationship online making all types of stories. Although online it’s completely different, and makes me angry that she takes advice of ppl online, and her sister, instead of doing it herself. She is so social media driven that it’s honestly saddening, posts about every single things.

However i’m not claiming to be a saint or the best partner i did do a lot of shit i shouldn’t have which i can give a complete different story of those.

But am i in the wrong?