u/Few-Engine-29

Hello

I’m a gay guy and I’ve been talking to a straight guy for a while now. We get along really well, but we are only trading pics ok daily basis… what he’s doing, etc.

Today he sent me a photo of himself sitting on the toilet. It wasn’t a nude or anything explicit, but you could see part of his leg, his trousers were down, and his boxers were visible around his knees.

As a gay man, I’m aware that I might be interpreting things differently than a straight guy would, so I’m trying to get some outside perspectives.

Is this something straight men commonly do with their friends? Do straight guys send each other random bathroom photos like this and think nothing of it? Or would most people see that as a bit unusual?

I’d appreciate honest opinions, especially from straight men. Am I overthinking this? Because he have a gf, so what…

Lately I’ve been feeling like a lot of guys don’t even show the basic level of care, respect, or consideration that you often see from straight men towards women, at least in the early stages of dating.

When I’m interested in someone, I make an effort to be respectful and make them feel valued. I don’t expect perfection, just some mutual consideration.

That said, I also wonder whether part of the problem is me. I’ve always been drawn to more masculine guys, and sometimes to men who seem straight or who aren’t fully comfortable with their sexuality yet. Maybe that attraction is leading me towards people who are less emotionally available in the first place.

So now I’m genuinely wondering: am I completely wrong about this, or do other people feel that dating between gay men can sometimes feel colder and less considerate?

I’ve recently started dating someone, and I’m a bottom. I’m wondering how other gay couples handle weekends away, nights out, drinking, etc., without constantly worrying about stomach issues or diarrhea.

If we spend a whole weekend together, going out, drinking alcohol, eating whatever, how do people stay comfortable and prepared? Do you avoid alcohol completely? Stick to certain foods? Is there some routine that experienced couples follow?

I know this might be a weird question, but I’d like to feel relaxed and comfortable around him instead of stressing about my stomach all the time. I genuinely don’t understand how other gay couples manage this so effortlessly.

Any advice would be appreciated.