Late bloomer/baby gay
Im 26 with my first girlfriend and feel kind of ridiculous even typing this out but I think I need perspective from other lesbians/bisexual women because I’m spiralling a bit.
I’m a total baby gay and before my girlfriend I’d only ever been with men. She’s had girlfriends before, more experience sexually with women, exes etc, and sometimes I get really in my head feeling like I just… don’t compare.
Like logically I know sex isn’t a competitive sport and she chose to be with me for a reason, but emotionally I keep imagining she’s secretly comparing me to women who actually knew what they were doing. I feel inexperienced and like she’s not truly satisfied.
I have brought it up to her and she reassures me, but it’s usually like “you’re fine! I enjoy it. “ like I don’t wanna be “fine”.
Has anyone else dealt with this as a late bloomer/baby gay? Does the constant “I don’t measure up” feeling eventually calm down or do I just need to evict the comparison goblin from my brain manually.