u/Few-Pea3853

Rower about 2 years old - used about 6 times. Couldn’t use due to a hip injury and now we are moving. $900. Message for more info if needed.

A little background info: had my daughter when I was 19 years old. Her father and I have not been together since she was born. I had to move out of state for work when she was 12 and she wanted to stay with her dad (my entire family still lives there as well).

My daughter is 18 and picked the most expensive college choice. My husband (her stepfather) and I said we will pay half of what the tuition is for the highly ranked in state school that she got admitted to. We even said we would be able to stretch it in order pay half of the more expensive in state school she was admitted to. She chose to go to the most expensive option - an out of state school. We told her we would give her the half we were willing to pay for in state school regardless and she would have to figure out how to cover the rest - we told her this before she made her final decision.

Her father expects us to pay half regardless of where she goes. We never discussed this.

He encouraged her to go to the more expensive school and said he would figure out how to cover the difference.

However - he has now made her get a job for the summer. This is something I have been urging her to do since she was old enough to work. Her father and her always said she was too busy to have a job. That’s fine - their choice.

This has led to her saying she cannot see us this summer (she usually spends half of summer break with us) because she has to work to help pay for college.

I said that I understood that. But that her dad said he would cover the extra expense. She said she feels she needs to help her dad. I said that is fine. I gave her another option - we have to get a nanny for the summer for our younger child. I said we would pay her to do that job instead. And she would make 3X as much as she would at this other job she is working. She refused. She said she is too busy with other vacations and plans with friends to see us for more than 5 days.

I am so very, very sad. I feel like she is punishing us for not covering half of whatever school she chose. And her little sister is so sad that she will not get to see her this summer.

Also - I recently had surgery and have travel restrictions where I cannot go to see her this summer. I had this surgery before she said she wasn’t going to see us.

I am at a loss of what to do.