u/Few-Plan1412

I got significantly injured having sex with a menstrual disc in. I have seen a lot of ads recently from "medical professionals" offering up discs as a "mess free" solution for period sex.
I can't bring myself to comment on social media, but I have to share this cautionary tale of terror.
Maybe if you are just having run of the mill vanilla sex for 15 minutes you would be fine, but that ain't me. My boyfriend and I were sleeping together about a year ago and "him" and the disc pinched me. It hurt when it happened, but that was nothing compared to the next few days. My period stopped, but the bleeding did not. I had sharp internal pain and bleeding (not period blood-if you know, you know) for three days before it resulted in an emergency visit to a gynecologist on a Saturday morning. She confirmed what I suspected, that the disc and "him" had pinched my inner wall and torn the membrane. Guys, this hurt. I don't have great insurance, so it wasn't a decision that I made lightly to go to the doctor.

1. Yes. My disc was properly inserted, I had been a disc user for quite sometime when this happened, this was just my first (and last) time having sex with a disc in. I still use discs, but I will absolutely not wear one when having sex.
2. It was either the soft disc or the flex disposable discs. I don't remember which, but I have seen ads for the flex disc as a solution and these are comparable in composition, so take that for what it is.
3. I was told I needed to wait for it to heal for about a week and then use a water based lubricant for a few weeks afterwards.
4. I'm not telling anyone what to do, but I feel very strongly that these products that are marketed as "mess free" should come with a risk disclaimer.

EDIT: A lot of people are telling me that I should have done my research or that "mess free" does not equate to risk free. I just read the entire packet that comes with my disposable discs and NO WHERE does it say anything about "increased friction" or "injury risks". My issue is that if you are going to promote a product as a "solution to period sex" then there needs to be a parallel that something like this COULD happen.
Ironically, I HAD done my research online in forums such as this and elsewhere. I never found anything that explained that this was a risk. I have also stated that I am not telling anyone what to do, but that I feel women have a right to know such a thing is a possible outcome.

I’m in my 30s and have been estranged from my mother, who is in her 60s, for about a year and a half. We had a difficult relationship growing up but became closer after my father passed. We eventually entered family therapy together, but I asked for a temporary break during a stressful period in my life and said I would reconnect afterward.

When I did reconnect, things had changed dramatically. My mother was cold, and conversations became politically extreme in ways that felt out of character (she had shifted from Bernie to MAGA within a few months), and later she began describing events in ways that didn’t match reality. During a final exchange involving her close friend, I was accused of things that either never happened or were heavily distorted, including inaccurate claims about my behavior during therapy. 

What concerns me most is that my mother had already begun showing signs of memory decline before all of this. Her close friend, who is deeply involved in her life and estate planning, appears to be reinforcing false narratives about me and worsening the estrangement. I’ve since learned this person has spoken negatively about me for years and I had no idea.

I don’t care about inheritance, but I’m struggling with whether I should walk away or whether my mother may be vulnerable to manipulation or possible elder abuse due to cognitive decline. I genuinely can’t tell how much of this estrangement is her independent choice.