u/Few-Rule-4447

For example, just alittle bit ago i did the laundry and had too re-wash the clothes a few times because we had kept forgetting to do the laundry and there has been things going on in our household/ drama, that part is esolved for the most part but when i just did the laundry earlier and dried them i put them in the laundry basket and he tells me that laundry basket was dirty and we have too re-wash them again, saying whats wrong with you?! you know thats the dirty laundry basket and i tell him no? i didnt know that was the dirty laundry basket.. and it seemed clean to me there was nothing in it or whatever, if it was dirty why didnt you tell me something was wrong with it? and he said "BECAUSE YOU KNOW ITS DIRTY" and im like no.. i didnt, but whatever what you say always must be how i think or what i feel or what i know. but its like that with alot of things and i was just about to go to sleep before he said that and now i have anxiety and feel like shit.

This has been going on for the past 2 months and honestly its becoming really upsetting, my MIL is mexican and converted her faith from catholicism too islam about a year or a year in a half before me and my husband got together (boyfriend at the time), for context i am a gay man, and she has always been against her son being into men, and being in a homosexual relationship, *i have many more stories* ugh. as of late though she has been telling me too shut up and not speak entirely because she is quote on the phone with her boyfriend from Iraq and she does not want him too hear me voice, she says because i am a man and she isnt allowed to have a man who she isnt related to be in the same house as her. even though i am married to her son i am almost positive its because, well i sound pretty feminine most of the time, and her boyfriend had asked her "who is that? is that a woman" and im sure she told him who i was more so, and now because me and her son are in a gay relationship he doesnt want too hear my voice becaues it is harem, i am getting so tired of this, she hasnt said anything lately but a few days ago i yelled at my husband and told him do not tell me to be quite, excuse me, this is my house too and if i want too speak and have a conversation with you then i can, i can respect her religion and her views but that does not mean i have too adhere to her wishes that is really disrespectful, what so i cant say anything for hours while she is screaming her lungs out laughing with boyfriend, i am not a loud person either she uses that as an excuse "oh well he is too loud but has said bluntly before oh its because i dont want him too hear his voice" too my husband. i told my husband if i hear him tell me that again thats it i cant handle it anymore, and i really dont want too argue with anybody i am tired of that, and just for what SPEAKING? TALKING? just because of my VOICE? oh my god sue me.

(also for more context it is not her house/nor does she pay for the bills)

she is from mexico and thats it, no other context. she just refuses too eat it because its not up too her standards, sometimes she says its because i use canned foods, when she also uses canned foods in most of her meals and has pretty much made very similar dishes. Her sons who were raised in the united states act in the same way, and have said uh hell no, white people food. which is really hurtful considering all ive ever learnt too make is from my grandparents and alot of it is pennsylvania dutch food which is really wonderful food and takes hours to make stuff sometimes, ive made quiche, shepherds pie, beef stew, chicken pot pie, and every once in a blue moon they will try it or eat it. but that rarely ever happens. they have said it just does not appeal to them and is gross or nasty for no other reason just because its too "white" for them but because of her my husband is now the same way and refuses too eat anything i make because it seems unappealing to him because his mother will say things about my food too him. soo long story short, i do not cook for anybody anymore. but it does hurt alot because my grandparents passed away 2 in a half years ago and cooking food with them and making meals is really all that i have left of them and makes me feel like they are still here.. I can still cook the meals but its kinda alot for one person and just hurts alot when im the only one eating it.

(lol for context yall i am a gay guy not a lady.) 😭

for context i live with my husbands family, his two brothers and his mother, they leave their dishes in the sink for days, till the point the food starts rotting and smelling, and sometimes in the past ants or other bugs would go into the sink. They were there maybe for 2 days? so i decided too clean the dishes it took me maybe an hour or two. i go back too my room and i hear his mom go into the kitchen and you know what :) take all the dishes i just washed which were two sink fulls. and proceed too wash them all over again, prior too this i had cleaned the kitchen and because i did not buy the paper towels but had my own, using a combination of a few of "their paper towels" and my massive one (for context its a giant one i got from a wipey factory i used too work at) that they have also used. *cough* i cleaned everything in the kitchen, organized and put things away and it took me many hours, later that day she screams at my husband that i had quote "used" all the paper towels. no thank you or anything but yeah. i wanted the kitchen to be nice for once for my husbands birthday, so later she screams at him on my behalf about that.. i have many many more stories about this crazy lady.