u/Few-University-4562

So for context, I 21 female, my girlfriend 21 female have been together for five years and known each other for 10. Her sister 24 female has been causing issues between my partner, and I since the moment we started dating. To the sister we will call her. Lila. I am always there and I guess that’s an issue.Lila is the most rude loud manipulative rat you would ever meet. And everyone that knows her would tell you the same including her own mother and her sister. There was a lot of situations but to make the story short she hates me because I’m with her sister and supposedly I treat her bad and her father says I am a liar because of something inappropriate he had done five years ago.
When all of this happened, I did speak to my girlfriend, and I was planning on leaving because of what a weird uncomfortable situation I was in, but I did stay. Her sister has always treated me horribly she has yelled at me on holidays made me feel very unwelcome, and my girlfriend did not do anything about it at that time . she never defended me. I would leave crying. It got to a point where I told her you either stand up for me or I’m going to stand up for myself and I’m just going to leave. That was like three years ago. So now they completely stopped talking and part of the reason is me, but the major reason is how Lila treats others and how she treats her sister, my girlfriend we will call Luce. She has said very horrible things to her has made her cry like sister things of course which is all normal until Lila crossed a certain boundary for Luce and my girlfriend decided to take a step back from the relationship She was going to have with Lila . Now, both of these reasons are the reason that my girlfriend is not speaking to Lila . My girlfriend unblocked Lila recently and I’m not sure why and I also have enjoyed the peace that I I’ve gotten from neither of us talking to her and I know it seems like I’m the bad guy when I say this, but I really don’t want them to have a relationship well at least not like the one they used to have if they’re going to have one I want to feel respected and I don’t want to be yelled at again, and I don’t want things to go back to when everyone will just listen to Lila and I constantly felt put down. I don’t want things to go back to that way and I’ve explained it to my girlfriend and she agrees, but I always feel like she’s going back-and-forth with how she feels about it . if they do go back to the way things were, I truly feel like I’d take a step back from all of them and I don’t know if that makes me the bad guy.

I (21F) and my girlfriend (21F) have been together for five years. my writing is not very good so please have patience.
My girlfriend works with my mother. There is this guy who comes in. He is a regular. We will call him Eli (40M)
He has come in once before to give his phone number to my girlfriend. I happen to be there getting her breakfast and I saw what had happened so I get the phone number and I rip it up. Obviously, now I know that I shouldn’t have done that. I asked her what that was about. She told me that he offered her motorcycle lessons because she had told him she’s never been on one. I see him later on that day and he’s looking at me so I tell him that is my girlfriend yes big mistake again. Anyways he comes up to my window. He knocks on it and he tells me he’s not a creep. I tell him you’re 40 years old and you gave your number to an 18-year-old pretty sure that makes you a creep.
Fast forward he goes back into the store to ask her out she says no. He gives her a bracelet to apologize for me. And she accepts the bracelet. She FaceTime me so I can see the bracelet. I guess to upset me is what she said she was trying to do. When I asked her if she was actually going to go on these motorcycle lessons, she claims she only said yes that she was because she wanted to make me jealous.
We have been together for so long and that has never happened before I trust her with my whole life and jealousy or trust had never been an issue before this.
Anyways, I see him a couple months later and he’s looking at me and laughing so I tell my friend that he’s a creep so he overhear is what I said, and he starts cussing me out calling me slurs inside the store. My girlfriend threatened to call the police and he leaves.
At this point, I’m not really sure how to feel about the situation anymore. I feel like I can’t trust her. I felt like I had competition with someone who is very unattractive not that that matters.. I told her already about how she made me feel. I’ve asked all the questions to get closure, but I’m here two years later still thinking about it and still not being able to get over it what do I do?

I (21F) and my girlfriend (21F) have been together for five years. my writing is not very good so please have patience.
My girlfriend works with my mother. There is this guy who comes in. He is a regular. We will call him Eli.
He has come in once before to give his phone number to my girlfriend. I happen to be there getting her breakfast and I saw what had happened so I get the phone number and I rip it up. Obviously, now I know that I shouldn’t have done that. I asked her what that was about. She told me that he offered her motorcycle lessons because she had told him she’s never been on one. I see him later on that day and he’s looking at me so I tell him that is my girlfriend yes big mistake again. Anyways he comes up to my window. He knocks on it and he tells me he’s not a creep. I tell him you’re 40 years old and you gave your number to an 18-year-old pretty sure that makes you a creep.
Fast forward he goes back into the store to ask her out she says no. He gives her a bracelet to apologize for me. And she accepts the bracelet. She FaceTime me so I can see the bracelet. I guess to upset me is what she said she was trying to do. When I asked her if she was actually going to go on these motorcycle lessons, she claims she only said yes that she was because she wanted to make me jealous.
We have been together for so long and that has never happened before I trust her with my whole life and jealousy or trust had never been an issue before this.
Anyways, I see him a couple months later and he’s looking at me and laughing so I tell my friend that he’s a creep so he overhear is what I said, and he starts cussing me out calling me slurs inside the store.
At this point, I’m not really sure how to feel about the situation anymore. I feel like I can’t trust her. I felt like I had competition with someone who is very unattractive not that that matters.. I told her already about how she made me feel. I’ve asked all the questions to get closure, but I’m here two years later still thinking about it and still not being able to get over it what do I do?