u/Few_Cardiologist_548

I (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been dating for 2 years now. I have the BEST relationship, and could not see my self with anyone else. We have talked about getting engaged this year, and we have been ring shopping. I have been told he has the date picked out, and we just know we want to be together. He treats me amazing, and I do not have ANY major issues other than one small concern.

My boyfriend has his mom and 2 sisters (one is a twin, and one is also around the same age as us) who constantly ask him for money. They all work, but just seem to not be able to manage money at all. His sisters do not have any bills other than paying for gas to get to work, so the money they work is their own spending/saving money.

Here are a few examples (This happens multiple times a week). His mom texted and said “send me $100”, and the next day we find out that she lost it all at a casino. His sister never has gas money, so she asks constantly for her and her boyfriend who does not work. We have been on multiple trips with his sister, and we’ve paid for hotels/expenses and she has never made any acknowledgement that she would pay us back. They ask for money for things that are not necessary, like shopping and money for the bar.

I do NOT police his bank account or money, but I feel like they just use him as a cushion to fall back on when they realize they did not budget in any expenses. He always says yes, and they know they can get it from him because he always says yes. I never ask him for money, because we’re not married so I do not expect him to fund my life yet.

In conclusion, I feel like this could be a potential problem in marriage, especially when bills and bank accounts are combined. I have asked him before about it, and he just brushes it off. I understand it is NOT my problem now, but it’s a problem I do not want to have in the future because money and family does not mix and will cause issues.

He makes good money for his age, but if he works extremely hard I feel like it should be for his future or something. I completely understand helping people out, especially family, but if it happens multiple times a week then it seems like they rely on him rather than helping out for necessities.

I (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been dating for 2 years now. I have the BEST relationship, and could not see my self with anyone else. We have talked about getting engaged this year, and we have been ring shopping. I have been told he has the date picked out, and we just know we want to be together. He treats me amazing, and I do not have ANY major issues other than one small concern.

My boyfriend has his mom and 2 sisters (one is a twin, and one is also around the same age as us) who constantly ask him for money. They all work, but just seem to not be able to manage money at all. His sisters do not have any bills other than paying for gas to get to work, so the money they work is their own spending/saving money.

Here are a few examples (This happens multiple times a week). His mom texted and said “send me $100”, and the next day we find out that she lost it all at a casino. His sister never has gas money, so she asks constantly for her and her boyfriend who does not work. We have been on multiple trips with his sister, and we’ve paid for hotels/expenses and she has never made any acknowledgement that she would pay us back. They ask for money for things that are not necessary, like shopping and money for the bar.

I do NOT police his bank account or money, but I feel like they just use him as a cushion to fall back on when they realize they did not budget in any expenses. He always says yes, and they know they can get it from him because he always says yes. I never ask him for money, because we’re not married so I do not expect him to fund my life yet.

In conclusion, I feel like this could be a potential problem in marriage, especially when bills and bank accounts are combined. I have asked him before about it, and he just brushes it off. I understand it is NOT my problem now, but it’s a problem I do not want to have in the future because money and family does not mix and will cause issues.

He makes good money for his age, but if he works extremely hard I feel like it should be for his future or something. I completely understand helping people out, especially family, but if it happens multiple times a week then it seems like they rely on him rather than helping out for necessities.

TL;DR: My boyfriend’s family asks him for money multiple times a week. I think this could be a potential problem if we get married. Should I talk to him about it, or forget about it?

UPDATE: I have talked to him with the advice in the comments, and he says “they are not getting help from me anymore”. So, we will see where this goes. He’s very understanding, but can be too nice. So we will see.