I didn't realize i did this.
I am a 42/m. My wife 42/f was giving me a blowjob last night. Usually we do this with her on her knees and me standing (just how things go i dunno) but we recently discussed me sitting down for her to have a better angle and position to help her last longer in that area. (Side note i have never in my life gotten off from a blowjob) So as I sit down and we are getting into it i realized that I was "tightening/tensing up" in the pelvic area. I thought about it and realized I do this all the time. I clench or hold tight in that area even during sex.
So I decided to let loose and just sit there and take it. I didn't flew my dick or make it jump or even move my hips. I just sat there completely relaxed in that area. I felt (mentally) weird. I felt like by relaxing that much i didn't care. I dont know if that makes since, but if I am flexing my goin to meet her sucking and stroking then I am participating, if I just stand or sit there and do nothing with my body I feel like she will sense that I am loose and think im not into it or her. If this makes any since help me make since of it.
After I relaxed I started to have different sensations down there than normal. Nothing super crazy just it was different and a little better. Am I overthinking this or have I been getting blowjobs wrong the whole time.