u/Few_Sample_9113

I live in a hostel with roommates and recently things have become weird between us.

Few months ago I went to the warden asking for a room change because I wanted a quieter place to study. It wasn’t against them personally, I just wanted my own space. I even told them later that I might shift to which they agreed, but the room never got allotted so we kept sharing the same room.

I’m naturally a quiet person and usually keep things to myself .i don't like gossiping or talking about ppl like they did .i hatedddd being part of that group ah .I used to talk and laugh normally with other people. After this they started saying my behavior changed and that I clearly had a problem with them from the start.

Then small things suddenly became big issues lights being on, doors left open, etc. I agreed sometimes lights stayed on because I study too, but they also keep lights on late at night sometimes, so it’s not like only I did these things. I mean these things were done by themselves too.

And honestly I did try adjusting. Many times I studied in the balcony or in someone else’s room just so there would be less disturbance and no conflict.

What bothered me more was that instead of talking normally, sometimes they would just shout or use gaalis over small things. I stayed quiet for a long time and never really replied back, but recently during another argument I finally said if there’s an issue then say it directly instead of yelling and verbally abusing me. I feel like i ruined the friendship/bond etc .

Now we barely talk. They keep saying they helped me a lot and that I never adjusted but I'm sure I must have done things for them too but it was never really mentioned, and I honestly don’t know what to feel anymore. I feel guilty sometimes, but also really drained .right now I got no friends ,everything seems like messs everyone staring at me as if I did something wrong. I'm not able to do anything without having that guilt feeling,they keep taunting me ..I got exams too coming up :( Is there anyone who could help me out

I live in a hostel with roommates and recently things have become weird between us.

Few months ago I went to the warden asking for a room change because I wanted a quieter place to study. It wasn’t against them personally, I just wanted my own space. I even told them later that I might shift to which they agreed, but the room never got allotted so we kept sharing the same room.

I’m naturally a quiet person and usually keep things to myself .i don't like gossiping or talking about ppl like they did .i hatedddd being part of that group ah .I used to talk and laugh normally with other people. After this they started saying my behavior changed and that I clearly had a problem with them from the start.

Then small things suddenly became big issues lights being on, doors left open, etc. I agreed sometimes lights stayed on because I study too, but they also keep lights on late at night sometimes, so it’s not like only I did these things. I mean these things were done by themselves too.

And honestly I did try adjusting. Many times I studied in the balcony or in someone else’s room just so there would be less disturbance and no conflict.

What bothered me more was that instead of talking normally, sometimes they would just shout or use gaalis over small things. I stayed quiet for a long time and never really replied back, but recently during another argument I finally said if there’s an issue then say it directly instead of yelling and verbally abusing me. I feel like i ruined the friendship/bond etc .

Now we barely talk. They keep saying they helped me a lot and that I never adjusted but I'm sure I must have done things for them too but it was never really mentioned, and I honestly don’t know what to feel anymore. I feel guilty sometimes, but also really drained .right now I got no friends ,everything seems like messs everyone staring at me as if I did something wrong.