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I’m planning to start reading “The Bogleheads’ Guide to Investing” soon and thought it would be nice to find someone interested in reading it along with me.

The idea is to keep each other updated whenever we finish a chapter, discussing key takeaways, and helping each other understand concepts that might be confusing along the way. I feel it would make the learning process more consistent and enjoyable 😄

If anyone’s interested, feel free to comment or DM me!

Right now I can’t really see anything beyond my own pain. After the breakup, I kept messaging and calling multiple times, hoping for some response, but I never got one back. Eventually I blocked and removed him from all my socials because it started feeling like a constant downward spiral me reaching out, getting emotional, speaking out of hurt, and then feeling even worse afterward.

It’s like repeating the same cycle again and again, just in a smaller and more exhausting version each time. Logically I know the relationship is over and that I’m out of it, but emotionally I still don’t feel fully “out.” When does the texting stop? When and how is it over actually over instead of just knowing it is?

When I first met him, everything felt easy.

He was calm, respectful, funny, easy to be around. He wasn’t the kind of guy people warn you about. He never shouted at me, never called me names, never created drama. After hearing so many stories about toxic relationships, I thought, “This is what a healthy relationship must feel like.”

And honestly, in the beginning, I was happy.

We would go out, watch movies, travel sometimes, spend time together. He always showed up when I made plans. He fit into my life so naturally that I slowly started imagining a future with him.

I think that’s where it began not with who he actually was, but with who I believed he could become.

I saw the good in him and assumed the rest would come with time. I thought maybe he just wasn’t expressive yet. Maybe he needed time to open up emotionally. Maybe love looks quieter.

So I stayed.

Then slowly, tiny moments started bothering me.

Not big fights. Not obvious red flags. Just little moments that are easy to ignore when you love someone.

Like realizing I was always the one planning dates.

Always the one asking to spend quality time together.

Always the one checking in emotionally.

And if I stopped trying, nothing really happened.

I remember few weeks I was emotionally exhausted and wanted comfort from him. Not solutions.care. But he already had plans with friends, a trip coming up, work stress, a busy schedule. There was always a reason why he couldn’t really be there for me.

And the scary part is… the reasons sounded valid.

So I kept convincing myself I was expecting too much.

But over time, I noticed a pattern: he was present when things were easy and fun. Trips, movies, dinners, hanging out he liked all of that. But when it came to emotional effort, intentional love, or making me feel emotionally safe, something was always missing.

I kept waiting for him to become the partner I imagined in my head.

Until one day it hit me:

Maybe this is who he is.

Maybe I fell in love with his potential. Maybe I filled in emotional gaps with hope. Maybe I loved the version of him I created from small good moments.

And now I’m stuck grieving someone who never fully existed in the first place.

Part of me feels relieved because deep down I know I want to leave. But another part of me is heartbroken because reality finally caught up to me.

It’s hard letting go of someone when the relationship wasn’t terrible.

It’s even harder when the person you’re trying to let go of is the version of them you created in your own heart.

I’m currently working with a client-based company, and my H1B got selected. At the time of registration, I was working for a client, but I’ve recently been assigned to a different client project and also had to relocate. Would this change in client and location cause any issues while filing the application? I’d really appreciate any insight