u/FickleDevelopment492

Do you get to a point where you realise, all the pain you’ve felt and the days laying in bed, the lack of sleep, the loss of appetite, the loss of productivity, that you actually do not want this person back in your life?
The pain they’ve caused because it was easier for them to walk away then to communicate and work at things.
The rewriting of the story of a healthy relationship to justify their decision to leave, the coldness. I’m glad it’s fucking done.
I never want to feel this pain again, and she’s more than capable of putting me in this place with her avoidant behaviour.
If there ever comes a day she messages, she will get the coldest reply.

I just don’t understand the girls head
We spent 6 months together, making memories, being happy, breakfast dates, I’d take her shopping and spoil her. Always treated her well in the bedroom.
I spent my Saturdays doing diy at her house for her, paying for all the materials because she is on universal credit.
I’ve bought her tvs,lamps,bedding,shelving,AirPods,her cat food, paid for her car insurance
The passion we had for each other
But then she turned, picked holes in my jokes, found them offensive, started to criticise a lot
Maybe a standard avoidant behaviour
She ended it all by text “sorry I don’t want to continue this and I won’t be chatting any further.”
Less then 2 weeks later she’s on tinder
Called her up and called her out for it and she completely downplayed the relationship saying we was miserable and that we argued every time and we weren’t even properly together.
How do people think they can behave like this?
I hope the loneliness is a tough one to swallow when she tries to find me in other people. I don’t mean to talk myself up but good people are hard to find. Hard working, generous, loving
Absolutely baffles me how people turn so quickly.
Glad I can finally move on and when the time is right I can meet someone who can treat me better
I was sort of hoping she would maybe see sense one day, regret her decision and maybe we can give it another chance. The tinder thing has completely put that to bed so glad there’s a clean break now, I will never go back there after that behaviour.

Here’s the story…..
Was chatting away from December 2024 until April 2025 everyday, calls, texts, I used to send her gifts, she was always poor so she appreciated them. She was a bit hesitant about meeting because she was in a previous bad relationship and I respected that. In the April she changed a little, the effort changed and I just pointed out I felt a bit rejected, that was it. She run for the hills with the whole “I need to be on my own and be me, I need to focus on my daughter, I’m overwhelmed” all that crap basically.
So that was it, the discard, like I meant nothing, tried for weeks to get things on track but got stonewalled.
I’m cracking on with my life and 4 months later I send her a message “ hey how are you”
Got chatting and she was saying she’s doing really well, dropped in that she went on tinder (fuck knows why when I gave her everything she needed)
Also dropped in that she had a one night stand with a guy who couldn’t even get hard.
That completely done me at the time, I called her out for it saying you know you wouldn’t meet me all that time but you then go and chat to and meet strange men. So me calling her out meant I got the block, stonewall and run. There’s me trying to move on again and get things back on track with my own life.
Another 4 months go by I’m ready to go to bed and a WhatsApp drops. It’s her
Not text just this. 🥹
I’m shaking at this point because although we never ended things well I always had her on a pedestal.
Turns out it was a drunk text and she misses me and I’m the only one who gets her and understands her and no one else has.
So I meet her that night for only the second time.
We have a passionate night together and we’re in contact again.
Fast forward six months and in that time frame I’ve spent basically every Saturday with her either taking her shopping, doing diy at her place, clearing her house out, you name it I’ve provided it.
So we’re in 6 months and we’re obviously very close and in love, there’s a real connection but she starts to find things to argue about. My humour is a bit dark sometimes and she didn’t like it, she would have a face like thunder for the rest of the day if i dare say a dark joke.
She completely shut off with “overwhelm”
3 weekends of arguing go by and I get the text “ I can’t continue with this anymore, I appreciate everything you’ve done for me, I won’t be talking any further”
The 3rd discard and stonewall. That was a week ago
I’ve been trying to call her to try and resolve things but I think she’s answered once all week. It’s like talking to a completely different person.
So here I am, after all the efforts I’ve put in. Sitting here with a chest that feels like it’s going to explode while she’s sitting there probabaly relieved.
As harsh as it sounds I really hope one day she realises what she’s lost and that her whole house that I have helped diy on is a constant reminder of me when her nervous system settles down. (Her tv, heated blanket,duvet,pan set, bedroom lamp, reading chair, flooring, painting, coffee machine,shelves,dresser, new toilet and bathroom flooring)
Thank fuck am I glad I’m moving on from that toxic bitch, here’s to the first few hours of no contact.
I can’t wait to laugh in her face when she returns