u/Fickle_Stay_7025

I’m moving cross-country soon and I’m extremely nervous about one of my semi-feral cats. I almost decided not to bring him cause it sounded like it would be too rough on him…but:

• I’ve taken care of him for almost 3 years. He’s not fully indoor, but he really relies on me.

• He shows up EVERY single night… tail up, happy to see me and the other cats.

• He hangs in the kitchen with me and the other cats some nights. He even sleeps in my room 2-4 times a month when he’s in the mood.

• He also helped “raise” the younger community cats I care for, and they love him (yes..I’m bringing all 3 of them).

I’m doing a 23 hr drive, and I finally said “F-it.. he’s coming whether he likes it or not”.

My plan:

I’m gonna trap him right before the move, take him to the vet, have them treat him for fleas, update shots/meds, give travel anxiety medication, they keep him overnight…

The morning of my move, I pick him up and we leave so he goes straight into the car and we head out.

He’ll be in his own secure crate for the drive. And he’s not gonna be happy I assume.

Can anyone please give me hope or success stories about moving with a semi-feral or indoor/outdoor bonded cat? Did they adjust okay after the move? How long did it take? Any tips for helping him settle safely indoors once we arrive?
I’m doing this because I love him and I genuinely think leaving him would be worse, but I’m so anxious about the transition.

… why would you vote Amora in?

1. If there’s a cast vote, she’s gonna be against the OG girls

2. Sydney will likely cause more drama for KC

3. Eventually Sydney would likely become friends with the OG girls so we can get KC out

4. Voting for Amora is a vote against the OG girls and she’ll likely side with parmida and titi

5. Melanie isn’t leaving Sincere no matter what she says to Melanie cause sincere already dumped Amora for her

Of course I was mad for like 3 days when I found out.. but secretly, I wanted to break up sooo badly. I just felt too guilty. He’s so fucking clingy and needs so much validation. We got in a big fight for two weeks and he’s so desperate he couldn’t wait that long I guess. I found out he fucked someone else. I never ended a relationship so fast before in my life.

I told him I would absolutely love to be friends still but I wanna just heal and focus on myself right now which is true.

Now he’s fucking beggingggggggg me to fix things and he’s so confused why I’m like happy and cheerful even though he cheated.

Cause I fucking hate desperate ppl. It’s not sexy. I hate “easy to get” ppl. He’s zero challenge. There’s no motivation to be better with him. He was so easy for me to get, and literally anyone on the fucking street could have him if they paid him enough attn.

I don’t see myself marrying someone whose mind is so weak they can’t be alone with their own thoughts for 5 seconds.

But I love him as a friend tbh. He’s so much more fun. I don’t even bring the cheating up. I just like to yap with him.

I’m feeling really guilty and could use advice from people who understand how attached you can become to community cats.

For the past three years, I’ve been feeding and caring for the cats in my neighborhood. I’ve gotten them TNR’d, given them flea and worm medication, and helped when they were sick or injured.

I’m moving across the country soon and bringing four of the rescue cats with me, along with my two rescue dogs. I’ll be living in a two-bedroom, roughly 1,000-square-foot home, and I’m also starting nursing school about two months after I arrive. I know I’m going to be extremely busy, so I’m trying to be realistic about how many animals I can responsibly care for.

There are two cats I’m not bringing. One is clearly being fed by someone else and is very overweight. I’ve also tried bringing him inside, but he sprays everywhere despite being neutered, so I know indoor life with six other animals would not work.

The other cat is the one I’m really struggling with. We have a strong bond and he trusts me, but he will only stay inside for a couple of hours before demanding to go back out. The cats I’m bringing are the ones who can safely and comfortably live indoors, because I’m moving somewhere with harsh winters and they will not be able to go outside.

I feel horrible imagining him coming to the house looking for me after I’m gone. At the same time, bringing five cats and two dogs into a small house while starting nursing school, especially when one cat may never adjust to indoor life, feels irresponsible and unpredictable.

I’m going to talk to the neighbors and try to arrange for a friend to refill food and water and check on him, but I can’t guarantee everything will stay the same.

Has anyone else had to leave behind a community cat they loved? How did you handle the guilt, and is there anything else I can do to make the transition easier for him?