Is my ‘foster’ son a domestic abuser?
When my son was 15, he made a friend, this kid was same age and apparently didn’t get along with his parents. He moved in, his parents were weirdly ok with it. His mum called me once told me he was a fantasist. Last year, his father killed himself, I know this is true, the police were here, he cried in my arms, his father’s stuff is in my garage. He is in a relationship with Sarah (fake name), it is the most toxic relationship I have ever witnessed in my life….they’re constantly screaming and shouting at each other, she has made allegations against him that means she is legally not allowed to be near my house. Sarah is here every night, I have three back doors and I cannot monitor them all whilst I am in bed. My ‘foster’ son has told us, when confronted, that he will kill himself if he can’t be near Sarah.
when they argue, Sarah screams like a fucking banshee, it sounds like she’s actually getting murdered. I genuinely believe it is because she is not very intelligent and does not know how to argue (the reasoning behind this is that she just screams “oh my God” over and over again). Her brother turned up with 4 mates and was like “you need to not let Sarah in your house every night because she has strict bail conditions…” I got my friend to answer the door, I don’t like speaking to random strangers and my friend is cute. My friend was like “yeah, we don’t want her here either”.
I went into my garage today, there was this ‘noose’ made of a fucking placemat that belongs to my mother that was in the shed…it’s hung by a singular nail and would kill no-one…(can’t post pictures apparently).
Like I said, I have been in a violent relationship before and I recognise this toxicity. My EX bf wore me down so much I was a shadow of my former self…