Advice needed - future husband admitted to cross-dressing
Hi all, first time posting on reddit ever and I need advice from women who have gone through this. My fiancé (30M) and I (29F) have been together for almost 5 years. We have a beautiful life together and he truly is my dream man.
After a mix-up with a package delivery, I found out he had ordered a wig. After snooping further, I then discovered he had been keeping a duffel bag of items in his car. I'm talking wigs, makeup, womens clothes, tights, a chastity cage, and an array of sex toys including 6 dildos. There were condoms, anal numbing cream, and a douching bottle.
I confronted him about the wig from the package and of course he denied it until I ultimately got him to admit to the cross-dressing after I told him I saw the duffel bag. He admitted to me that he used to do live cam porn and continued to do it two years into our relationship, only stopping because our state started to require you to enter and ID (Jan 1st 2024).
He says he has never physically been with anyone else while we have been together, he said that he only dresses up a few times a year and that it really doesn't do it for him much anymore. He said he would be willing to stop to save our relationship.
I'm so conflicted because everything I have seen is that once you start you can't actually stop. He's been hiding this for so long I have no idea if he's even telling me the truth now or just downplaying everything. He said it just started out of curiosity and wasn't a porn addiction or anything but he's been doing it for 12 years now and did the porn for 10 years.
I'm really afraid he's lying to me and has been with men. What do you all think? Are these items normal for cross-dressers? I'm also afraid he might be into sissy porn and that community and just mentally unwell.
Looking for guidance on if this is just cross-dressing that he could possibly work past or if it's deeper than I'm realizing. Thank you so much for any and all advice!
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